News Nearly 20% Of Women In Us Are Raped Or Suffer Attempted Rape In Their Life Time

[Lady of Longbourn]

Sorry. My husband would have told me that was to blunt? Maybe? I have trouble reading people? :O_o:

 

[Kimpersonal]

ugh. People just suck. But then there are a precious few ... like many here on this site ... who see the truth and extend whatever care, compassion and empathy they possibly can.

Ayesha ... I'm sending vibes of hope in your direction. :)

 

[mamachick]

I have trouble reading people in writing forums too. Speaking in person allows for all the non verbal cues that I am much better at. Did you mean you were to blunt or me. I did not mean to be offensive in saying that there was a tad of humor in there at first sight. I m sorry if my comment offended anyone.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

No, I meant I wondered if I was to blunt. Don't worry Brat17, you are fine! :)

 

[Kimpersonal]

I like the bluntness Brat and Ayesha. Truth ought to be spoken plainly. If it is found humorous ... well ... I see that as a coping mechanism attempting to balance darkness and light.

If indeed these stats and the state of society shows a "culling" of the weak ... and advantages only being given to those holding the strength of their denial? My adamant hope is that we become the "exceptions" to that "rule".

A life lived well is the best revenge! "Well" does not mean successful by anybody's terms but our own ... as far as I am concerned ... we are doing marvelous given the ordeals we have survived and now share as a testament to our strength ... not our weakness!!!

You guys ROCK!

 

[mamachick]

Welcoming balance-where is it?

 

[Kimpersonal]

No longer sure. I find balance for the time it takes to write a post. Then ... I'm curled up on my couch in the fetal position half an hour later. Ironic, ain't it? I try to cheer others on ... then keel over and wish I was anyone else but me?

 

[Whitneys story]

(I am not going to write any more details, so please don't ask. I just get outraged when I read those statistics, and I want to express some of that feeling here in a safe place.)I am logging off and going out for a long walk! Exhale....

No one should ever ask for more details! I am sorry about your family of origin. You deserve better. "Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof". by Richard Bach. The injustice in our systems are despicable and you need validation. I am in hopes that you have a private diary and have read the many helpful articles.

I would personally say that the rate is much higher than the study as most do not come forward. I am lighting candles of peace and clarity for you. Hugs if you accept them Whitney

 

[Britt.f7]

When I was attacked by my babysitter as a child, my mom(later) told me she had called the girls parents and told them their daughter was sick. She also told me to stay away from her. Unfortunately, I ran into her in our neighborhood and she always taunted me.

When I was attacked by a group of boys, while in my teens, I didn't tell my mother about it. I also don't remember her asking me why I started sleeping in the hallway between her room and my sister. I had, though, wrote a note to an acquaintance who was interested in dating one of the boys, about the incidence. My french teacher, a woman, intercepted it but, thankfully, preread it before sharing with the class so that she didn't. She did ask to speak to me after class. She told me it wasn't my fault and asked me if I wanted to talk about it. Tears in my eyes, I told her no. Nothing ever came of it. My mom said she was never told. I don't know if that is true or not, but that is what she says.

That was the 70's. Nothing ever got reported, at least in my experience. Nowadays I think the teacher would have least reported it to one of the school counselors. I do know that unless I brought it up, my mom never mentioned it. Last year I asked her if anything else happened with the babysitter, other then what I remembered, and she got very angry with me for wanting to discuss it. I never did find anything out.

I think my mom and other people of the time just didn't discuss it. I'm sure, when she was a child it was even more so. It definitely didn't get reported.