Need Some Guidance

[Killashandra]

You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. And I am shattered and emotional that you had to live through that. Children are the most vulnerable and the most abused.. it's not right and I know it's tough. I left home at 16 and couch surfed for a few years, this did it help my situation and I dropped out of school.
My only advice is to try and remove yourself from this toxic relationship and get regular couselling with some one you trust. The earlier you start the greater your chance of adopting better mental health strategies. It's hard to unlearn and relearn core behavioural strategies when your older and more established in your way of life. I live in australia so things are a little different in regards to laws and education.
So if you have the means to live on campus then do it! You have the intellect and smarts to achieve YOUR goals not anybody else's.
Lots of luck baby girl.

 

[VernonMcCoy]

Yes, I too agree with you. Not only in Australia, but it different for every country. There is only the need to have the proper guidance based on it. Because it is important for the future. Rest one can handle the circumstances he face.

 

[void]

Let's just say I'm 16, in my second year of highschool, and my dad wants me to drop out. He's...

Your father is wrong, ignorant, selfish, abusive, unfair, mean, cruel..............:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

You are superior to him...I have NO doubt.

You will succeed...he is weighing you down.....ARGHHHHHHHHH:mad:

Do u have someone who can help you???

 

[PTSDfree]

Update: I'm doing better. I got my first job last week. My dad and I got into one heck of an argument today and he was comparing me to my mom again. I filmed part of it and realized that his behavior was definitely abusive. I have asked him several times to quit doing that and I think he does it intentionally. It is really confusing when somebody treats you like shit and there is nothing normal to compare it to. I think it was easier for me to catch onto my mom's behavior because she never showed any reconciliation and was also physically abusive. I've decided that I will be moving out and taking the GED test as soon as I can. His behavior can be really impulsive sometimes, so I think it's a good thing. I have some money saved up as a safety net too.

Thank you to everyone that replied. :hug:

I don't know what the laws are like where you are but there should be systems in place to help you get out and be independent, or perhaps there is another family member that can help you?

I'm not really sure what the laws are like here. All I know is that it's not legal to drop out before you're seventeen. I can make $8.31 an hour at a bare minimum and work up for 40 hours a week. I looked up the waiver laws for the GED, and it looks like I need to be approved by the state too. I think I'll study and then wait until I'm seventeen, so I won't have to get the state's permission.

Get out. Get your education. Your dad doesn't know what you need.

I'm so sorry. :(

I just got my first job last week, so I'm on my way to that. My dad ended up cancelling my school back in April (he got sick of hearing about it despite that I was well on my way to finishing it), so I've been spending my free time on Khan Academy, Duolingo, and reading books. There's a monthly cost on top of the courses, and he just got sick of paying for it.

Question...are you of a religious sector that will culturally expect you to be married at 18?

Nope. He's not religious at all, actually. He sees it as an easy way out financially for women (which I admit is true in some cases, but that's not for me). It definitely was for my mom.

Do u have someone who can help you???

I have a few older friends, but they're not really aware of my situation.

 

[void]

@DissociativeBelle
Would they be able/willing to be supportive if you did tell them?

 

[rightkindofme]

I just got my first job last week, so I'm on my way to that. My dad ended up cancelling my school back in April (he got sick of hearing about it despite that I was well on my way to finishing it), so I've been spending my free time on Khan Academy, Duolingo, and reading books. There's a monthly cost on top of the courses, and he just got sick of paying for it.

Congratulations! You are doing what you can do all by yourself *today*. That's a big deal. That is maintaining hope in yourself.

That spirit can carry you a long way.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am so very happy for you! I am also very proud of you as well.:hug:

 

[PTSDfree]

@void I don't think so. They have their own issues and aren't really suited for that sort of thing. It's less than two years until I turn eighteen, so I'll hold on for now and focus on saving up my money until I can get my own place.
@rightkindofme @gizmo Thank you!

 

[void]

@DissociativeBelle

You are showing a huge am't of courage and internal strength, resiliency etc...I'm very impressed:happy:(and i don't impress easily)

2 years will seem long and at times you may feel weak and discouraged....life has ups and downs as you have already seen....but we will be here for you that entire time if/when you need to talk:hug:

You are obviously gifted and you will learn well as an auto-didact.
I was much like you at 16....PTSD, high IQ, passionate about learning....with zero support or encouragement.
Hopefully you will feel our good will toward you.

What academic material interests you the most?:bookworm::geek::bookworm:

 

[Enaila]

Have you looked into online public charter schools? Many states have them and being public it is free to attend. I teach at a public charter which had an online program. Our students are asked to come in one evening a week for 3-4 hours and rest is done online whenever student can work on courses. It allows you to take additional courses and graduate early.