General New Carer With A Few Questions.

[blue_eyed_angel]

Hi everyone!! I recently became a carer for someone that suffers from PTSD. I am 22yrs. old and recently started dating a 36yr old OIF Veteran. I have been with him for 2 months. I know that dealing with PTSD is not a very easy thing to do. I have done a lot of research on PTSD and during my research I found this forum. I think that this is a great place. There are a lot of helpful things on here. I try to be patient with him because he does have his bad days. He has a hard time trusting people. And within the first couple of weeks of us dating he did open up to me about his war experience and his PTSD. He does receive treatment for his PTSD. I really like this guy alot! And I just want to know if anyone has any advice on starting a relationship with someone that has PTSD.

 

[Nicolette]

Welcome to the forum blue_eyed_angel.

There are two recent threads in this section which may be of interest to you: [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/thread7677.html"]PTSD - The Impact On Relationships Continued[/DLMURL] and [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/thread6984.html"]The Price Of PTSD On Relationships[/DLMURL]

 

[blue_eyed_angel]

Thank You Nicolette! I know that the choice of being a carer is completely up to me. He did when we first started dating tell me that there are days where he just don't want to talk or just wants to be alone. Which I can completely respect. He was married for 15yrs. and recently his divorce was finalized. Some days when he is having a bad day it sometimes gets frustrating. Because all you want to do is help. But there are a lot of times where I don't say anything because I am not sure if I need to. I do however anytime that he wants to talk about things just sit there and listen and let him just get it off his chest. He does see a therapist once a week. He is concerned with the 14 year age difference between us. He tells me that I need to be living my life and doing the things that I want to do. Which I do. I am going back to college starting this fall to become a psychologist ironically. I guess there are just a lot of things that I just don't completely understand about the disease and the process of it. I've done the research but it is definitely not like living with the reality of it on a day to day basis. No day is like the next.