Nightmares

[ashdawn8287]

I have been having nightmares lately. I keep having nightmares that my fiance is cheating on me. I know it deals with my ex and how he treated me but I wake up feeling like it is real and its hard to work on trust when I wake up with those old feelings again. Any suggestions?

 

[anthony]

IMO, you answered your own question by stating "old feelings again." This means you have been down this path before, so the simple answer is, what did you do last time that helped you rationalise fact from fiction?

 

[ashdawn8287]

I realize talking this out with my fiancee helps me the most when it comes to this. That way he knows what is going on and knows to reassure me without taking it personally. He gets me out of the cycle and snaps me back into reality. When I verbalize it I realize how untrue and stupid it sounds. I trust him with that. I have been a lot better at verbalizing everything to him. It has made the relationship a lot better, not that it was bad before, but this is the point we have been waiting to reach.