Sexual Assault Not Sure About This.

[Abrasky]

OK so I got some emotional memories back the other day, specifically of feeling like I had just been sexually abused when I was 19. It was a feeling. But nothing happened to me at the time this memory happened except I was being attacked physically by having a lamp thrown at me and screamed at and attacked, and then my abuser (stepdad who sexually abused me from 6 to 9 years tried to isolate me from a friend of mine by saying she had ulterior motives and in a round about way it sounded like my abuser was accusing this woman of having abused him. It horrified me. Is an abuser accusing your friends of abuse to isolate them from sexual abuse or just plain abuse? Has anyone had to deal with this form of manipulation before?

 

[Marie E.]

I don't know. But brings up similar feelings of abuse in me. I still feel isolated, but am not. I keep waiting for my abuser to show up at my door or break in or kidnap my kids, nothing. I still suffer migraines and freak out the mention of somebody else telling me of a zig zag scar by the crown of my head. I never got treatment from the hospital. (Yes, I plan to asap get things moving again as I have a intense fear of check ups, as if I'm damaged goods in all aspects). My abuser manipulated me in ways to where I could not form words in my head to speak, that lasted a year. I had to bring myself out of it, amazingly, but the scars inside and out still exist.

I remember my abuser telling me that this and that person is not good for you or your heath. Why keep your family in contact if they harmed you in the past and that he could see that they were up to no good. Bottom line I believe was that my abuser felt/knew he had complete power over me when he had my undivided and unconditional trust.

 

[Abrasky]

I can relate to that idea of my abuser feeling he had complete power when he had my undivided and unconditional trust too.

 

[WonderingWhy]

Sounds to me more like when an abusive spouse isolates the abused from friends and family. The more isolated the less possible support of the individual being there. This gives the abuser more control.
From what you described it sounds like control is the main reason for his actions. That's my thoughts.