General Opinions Please

[sisu]

As you know if you've read any of my posts my BF is in a shut down due to stress. We have decided to take a break and not break up for now.

We have tentative plans to meet Monday night to talk. I am not sure if this is a good idea or not as I am not sure if it will accomplish anything.

The only thing I can hope to get him to understand is that I love him, I am here for him, I understand and am not taking it personally. Also, that I am taking the time to be with my girlfriends and family so I am okay.

So....thoughts?? Should I meet with him or cancel and leave him be a while longer. I don't want to make this worse for him or for me.

Thanks for your help.....and I do understand that it is YOUR opinion and may not be how my BF thinks. Link RemovedLink Removed

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Hi Elizabeth,

I posted a reply on your thread Rough Patch.

love & respect
RG x

 

[Jimmy1]

It depends on who organised to meet. If you both did, or he did, go. Then again, if you did and he is going, it shows he cares. In my opinion there is no harm in meeting with him, but don't expect much. Then again, I don't know what his frame of mind is like.

RG, just do what feels right to you.

 

[willis williams]

I posted also on rough patch. For anyone to say w ether or not in this situation would be a guess. We would have to know his frame of mind personally not from second hand. There are so many combinations of moods he could be in. As far as you I think that my post on rough patch says enough. You need to start thinking about yourself at this point because you have to be stonge and sain to be of any benifit to you, your children, or even him in the future. If you make the wrong choice now and it is ment to be it will work its way out. That is one of the great things of life we are not supposed to be perfect we can make mistakes and it might hurt but they generally don't kill us and we learn from them. Remember if the friend part is still active he will call if he needs, as I would expect he would want you to if you have a problem. If he is withdrawn putting an expectation of contact would not be good. We know we need help but we are not babies so reporting in is not a good option. If you send him texts make them about you (I just finished jumping over the moon got pics would you like to see them) never are you doing alright, are you still depressed, or ah poor baby shit because that makes us feel weak and vulnerable and we are not real smart we will withdraw more to hi the weakness. I have confidence in you and which ever way you go just follow your heart there is no one right answer at this point either way could be wrong which means it was not ment to be or either way could be right, half right, quarter right and then you can just live your life from that point knowing and helping others on how it turned out.I always believe that if you leave it all out on the feild win or loose you gave it your best shot that makes a winner. You may not get the outcome you wanted but you can't hold anything against yourself for the outcome. Good Luck!!!
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