Other Parties Psychology Report Now In

[Tessa]

This stuff is so frustrating and it can feel so hurtful. We are glad you talked your husband down when suicidal and understand the daily love and care. Sending warm thoughts to you both.

 

[amethist]

I have spoken tot he solicitor this morning, and he was not surprised by what I had to say. He himself thought the report was wrong in places, but has to have it from our side before he can comment.

We now have a week or so to go through this and send our side of it back.

So tomorrow we go to the coast until Wednesday, Thursday I am at the carers office, then on Friday the Doberman is let loose with the highlighter. :D

Hubby lost it yesterday and hit the pub, which went down like a lead balloon and he knew about it this morning. I then left him to think about it for an hour, coming back to him realizing that he has more to do for himself before he can even think about having even a social drink with anyone.

Now where have I heard that before.

 

[CraftyCath]

Oh Amethist, I'm so sorry about your bad news. Send H a hug from Steve and I.

These Barstools make me sick!:mad:

I couldn't get a diagnosis other than depression, anxiety and neurosis out of the NHS, I tried for 25 years. I finally got to see a Clinical Psychologist for free and he diagnosed me with CPTSD. He then retired or died or left the planet and I never got my report. I chased it up, my doctor chased it up but it never came.

Now my new doctors don't accept the diagnosis. My old doctor made me go through everything again and I felt like I had been emotionally raped. He then said he would refer me to the new Clinical Psychologist. That was July last year and my new doctor is unsure if the referral was ever sent.

I was turned down for disability 3 times!

Even though there are 4 adults living of my H's low wage, I'm so grateful that I found a private T who believed me and took me through the most amazing healing process.:)

Please hang in there Amethist. You are a wonderful, caring, intelligent woman and I truly hope you can get it all sorted.

P.S. Next time you have to face these Barstools, let H sleep in the shed for a few days before, in the same clothes and then take him to the Psych unwashed, unshaven and let him unleash both barrels on him! Maybe, maybe they will see the truth then! Or maybe they couldn't see the truth if they fell over it backwards!

'For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil!'

 

[amethist]

Well I can now put the highlighter away and file the report.

I just hit send to the solicitor. All I have to do now is print it off in the morning for the paper copy, get hubby to sign on the dotted line and stick it in the post.

 

[CraftyCath]

Well done Amethist. Guess it's just a waiting game now. x

 

[amethist]

Sick of waiting Cath, one note from me said for them get this sorted between them, as hubby may not be able to do the full court thing.

I also told them that was not a game, but reality, our reality. Doberman and all guns were blazing last night as I finished it.

 

[Froggie]

Sorry to hear what happened to H ((((Amethist)))), linking arms with you with all this extra work ... glad you have a good solicitor. Candle burning for you both. Best of luck.

 

[Srain]

It comes down to believing that you deserve your compensation, be willing to not waiver no matter what they throw at you, be open to knowing you may not 'win' but that will not be due to you, it depends on the solicitors/lawyers and the judge if it goes that way.

You have to have conviction and a strength of steel as they will try and mentally break you any which way they can or at least try to convince you that you have no case in hope you will give up the case.

I think this is well said.

Hang in there, Amethist, and if need be do what CraftyCath suggested. I know I followed this from others when I went before the Judge. I stopped meds a few days prior to my court date, this was to show the Judge just what I'm up against - not nearly as bad as gets but kind of like what goes on in my head. I wore no make-up, dressed as I would at home, did little to nothing with my hair, wore my horrid glasses. During the session I sat sideways, so I wouldn't have to look directly at anyone, my husband wasn't allowed in during the proceedings, I cried the whole time (I couldn't help it, it was anxiety), I ended up with a tissue over my face trying to answer question as I have great issues with people looking at me. The Judge was very kind and patience but this was me, in all my stark raving reality. No hiding, no support, no cleaning it up.

I won. Only when the judgement came it was for Disability due to Chronic Migraines. I guess PTSD and other mental illnesses had yet to be okay'd here in this state, even this was extremely rare but there was no doubt that with my hospital history and psychiatry records the Judge saw what he saw.

Good luck, Amethist.

 

[KP the nut]

((((Amethist)))), I hope you get the result you both deserve.

I feel like giving in with mine, so tired of it all. AND to them all it is a game.

 

[Loloma]

Hi everyone,

I just thought I would wade into this thread conversation. It's not about me but my youngest son. He lives in Australia and about five years ago had an accident at work and had his lower leg and foot broken in about thirteen places. They managed to operate and put it back together with steel pins etc. He was on crutches and workers compensation for over nine months. At that time I advised him not to sign off on the claim as then there would be no recourse.

Finally he went back to work and struggled on for about one and a half years, until he started getting back pain and headaches. It turned out the leg injury had caused a problem with his back and spine. He complained to his boss and was sacked two weeks later before he could lodge for workers compensation again.

He has been waiting for over six months now to hear if his claim will be accepted and cannot work at his old job any more. He is trying to get compensation and retraining in Business Management. Standing all day and working as a team leader is no longer possible.

 

[CraftyCath]

I hope it gets sorted for him soon Loloma. It is cruel to make people wait.

I feel like giving in with mine, so tired of it all. AND to them all it is a game.

Don't give up KP, keep on at them. It is all a game to them and they don't care who they hurt in the process.