I had no idea how severe this could be until she started talking to me about how some of my actions can be triggers. Then when her ex got sentenced to multiple felony counts I had an ‘oh shit’ moment. He broke her collarbone, strangled her, gave her a black eye. It’s definitely a huge learning curve.It’s a huge learning curve. Nobody knows what they’re getting into when they start a relationship with a sufferer. You have to have a rhino hide for sure. It a tight-rope walk… being empathetic without being a doormat.
It doesn’t help that I have abandonment triggers. Luckily I have a professional therapist to work through all this with. This forum has been immensely helpful too