Parts, feelings, and needs

[Snowflake]

What parts do you have (ages), how do they feel? What do they need? Especially from therapist???

 

[susannahsays]

Why do you want to know this? I do not have parts, but I am considered a so-called alter (this is a sore point). Is that what you mean? I don't understand what you mean by how do I feel. At this moment I feel irritated. Earlier today I felt sad. Last night I felt smug. I guess I need from the therapist what lots of people need. Someone to listen and help me figure out my shit.

If you're talking about IFS parts, I don't know anything about that.

 

[Snowflake]

Why do you want to know this? I do not have parts, but I am considered a so-called alter (this is a sore point). Is that what you mean? I don't understand what you mean by how do I feel. At this moment I feel irritated. Earlier today I felt sad. Last night I felt smug. I guess I need from the therapist what lots of people need. Someone to listen and help me figure out my shit.

If you're talking about IFS parts, I don't know anything about that.

It was a question my therapist asked me to do for an assignment-write my parts down, state what they are feeling and what they need. Sorry it bothered you.

 

[hithere]

I should probably do this... I think this is what I need to do right now. I had a painful therapy that I am still trying to recover from. It was the fact that I have different parts with conflicting and polarized needs that caused all the crap I got from the therapist. (rejection) Still trying to put myself back together from it. thanks for the tip...

 

[Freida]

I'm still working on it but here's what Ive got for now...

Freida - the face - she's fine. Just -fine
Warrior - fights to survive and keep going - someday I think she will have anger
Screamer/whimperer- does what is necessary when fighting no longer works - she has shame
Innocence - holds the ability to trust. Must be protected - she is happy?
H - the critic. gets me moving when I don't think I can - bossy and cranky
S holds the feelings that aren't safe to feel - she is numb
Buttercup? new part who is sad? or old part who finally got a name? she is like a kid

Ya -- it's damn confusing.

 

[SinkorSwim]

Corey-The one who is always negative and has internalized all of the negative his father has ever said to him. Just can't and won't be happy. Always doubting himself.

Little Katie-my seven year old self that is frozen in time from SA. Scared, afraid, can't trust, sad, lonely.

Teenager Katie-also stuck in time and acts very teenagerish. Sad, lonely, aggressive.

Adult Katie-The one that holds everything together. The peace keeper.

 

[whiteraven]

I have a bunch. My most active ones now are Katy, an almost-4 year old (not 3, but almost-4), who probably just needs my T to listen, Sarah who is 8ish and writes on the computer for Katy (and I have no idea what she needs. Like I said, a bunch more and most would say they need nothing from him (or anyone else). I stopped being dysfunctional mostly (I still lose time, mostly in the evenings to Katy, but it's really not an issue), so most of those inside just go about their business and don't interact with (or care about) the therapist.

 

[susannahsays]

It was a question my therapist asked me to do for an assignment-write my parts down, state what they are feeling and what they need. Sorry it bothered you.

Who said it bothered me? I was trying to take the time to answer your question since nobody else had since you posted it on Tuesday. I was just wondering why you wanted to know is all. Sounds like you're just curious and that's fine by me.

 

[Lionheart]

(I do not have DID, but rather am considered fragmented...I do not have alternative names for these child selves).

My younger child-selves or "parts" are:

a 5-year-old that needs help putting things into words as he didn't have words for his traumatic experiences.
a 10-year-old that holds a ton of grief, fear, and rage that needs healthy expression.
a 13-year-old that blames self for abuse, internalized abusers, inappropriate guilt, and shame, needs a safe person/place and guidance and support.
a 17-year-old----"adult".. that needs help with healthy sexual expression and navigating relationships.

Thank you for posting this thread. I will take this information with me to my next T session and see what my T has to say.

 

[Karolina12]

Here’s a few:

9-11 y.o. that holds a lot of emotion (mostly fear and sadness) without full context as to why.

A part that holds body memories from various traumas throughout childhood and adulthood, unconnected to actual events, and becomes active (not sure if that is the right phrasing for what occurs) when a feeling of helplessness is triggered.

Toddler or small child. If safe to do so, will ugly cry.

 

[Wendell_R]

Big Wendell - the apparently normal part. He needs the others to be willing to talk to one another. He would like his therapist to help him to be less hard on himself, less controlling, and more open to others. He posts here on the forum, but Lady sometimes puts in her thoughts.

Lady - a female part who is empathetic, energetic, generally wonderful, but maybe a bit vain. She needs compassion and attention as she learns to function by sharing a male body with a bunch of male parts.

Wendell - adult, but younger than Big W or Lady, who was deeply retraumatized by our first marriage. Wendell will be doing a LOT of work this summer with our therapist to learn to trust women, to forgive himself for past mistakes, and to be loving and accept love.

Thomas - a teenager, who got stuck when all around him were comfortable with dating, and his only feeling was terror. He has made great progress and needs gentle wisdom from our therapist to continue to grow.

Nathan - a young part, who sometimes takes on the persona of a somewhat older girl. He so loves Lady and wants to grow up to be her. She has made a lot of progress, but is still a bit clingy and jealous. She needs to learn that she can grow up to be strong all by herself.

Little Wendell - a young part who has been out a long time. Little Wendell has made great progress, too. He is learning to be closer to people and to not run away.

LIttle Guy - a toddler, who is deeply afraid of his mother. He will be working with our therapist to learn to be safe and loved by women he can trust. He will learn how to express his fears and pain and new joy. Wendell speaks for Little Guy.

What we all need is to learn how to work together and embrace one another's existence. Right now, we have no desire to unify into one uniform personality.

 

[Snowflake]

Big Wendell - the apparently normal part. He needs the others to be willing to talk to one another. He would like his therapist to help him to be less hard on himself, less controlling, and more open to others. He posts here on the forum, but Lady sometimes puts in her thoughts.

Lady - a female part who is empathetic, energetic, generally wonderful, but maybe a bit vain. She needs compassion and attention as she learns to function by sharing a male body with a bunch of male parts.

Wendell - adult, but younger than Big W or Lady, who was deeply retraumatized by our first marriage. Wendell will be doing a LOT of work this summer with our therapist to learn to trust women, to forgive himself for past mistakes, and to be loving and accept love.

Thomas - a teenager, who got stuck when all around him were comfortable with dating, and his only feeling was terror. He has made great progress and needs gentle wisdom from our therapist to continue to grow.

Nathan - a young part, who sometimes takes on the persona of a somewhat older girl. He so loves Lady and wants to grow up to be her. She has made a lot of progress, but is still a bit clingy and jealous. She needs to learn that she can grow up to be strong all by herself.

Little Wendell - a young part who has been out a long time. Little Wendell has made great progress, too. He is learning to be closer to people and to not run away.

LIttle Guy - a toddler, who is deeply afraid of his mother. He will be working with our therapist to learn to be safe and loved by women he can trust. He will learn how to express his fears and pain and new joy. Wendell speaks for Little Guy.

What we all need is to learn how to work together and embrace one another's existence. Right now, we have no desire to unify into one uniform personality.

This is great-good work