Parts, feelings, and needs

[Rani G2]

Hi @Snowflake

From my T‘s work sheet

Abandoned/wounded child —their function—symptoms—their voice

Angry/impulsive child their function symptoms ect

Perpetrator introject/perpetrator loyal /identified parts

Coming into a dialog with them through Body, art music or talking... my T used to work with music, sounds or Gestalt Therapy. Body and tapping can work as well...not always the ideal ground is found but trying.

 

[Skywatcher]

My therapist recently helped me put all of my parts in healing places. The ones that had been taking care of others were apparently not allowing themselves to heal. I’m having trouble with this concept. They get to visit, but it all seems so separated. They do all have care givers though. Some of my parts have names but I don’t feel safe writing them on here.

I have a toddler, 4, 6, 9/10, teen, college.
A strong protector/comforter (not human)
2 denial parts
My normal self
I think I also have a part that is really angry and one who is mean

My youngest parts deal a lot with abandonment and they are very attached to my T as if she is their mom. They are starting to accept me in that role, but prefer her.

My teen/colleges are still skeptical of letting anyone in. They used to get in the way of the little ones trusting T. They have always been huge protectors of the littles. I have a very difficult time reaching my teens.

My denial parts are different. One holds all of the childhood big T. The other one likes to scream about how it couldn’t have happened.

My protector has been around the most during emdr recovery and we bring him in during the sets.

My angry/mean parts lead to self harm, ideation and abusive thoughts towards myself.

 

[hithere]

this thread has been really helpful for me. thank you to everyone, and I'm not even the thread starter!

 

[Snowflake]

this thread has been really helpful for me. thank you to everyone, and I'm not even the thread starter!

It really helped me doing this in therapy. Each page was a part. I had listed what the part was feeling and then on the back I had listed what the part needed. It was very helpful to me and I’m hoping it was helpful to my therapist.

 

[Starfire]

Interesting insight from this question. Realized what has been happening is our T facilitating talking to him & thru that to each other. He has often asked who on the inside can help with that? Anybody know why x wants that? or does that? We've often joked he knows us better cuz he talks to more. Recently we asked him to talk to one who was upsetting the whole system. He said he would but asked for somebody to listen in so they could help when he wasn't there. Sneaky T! Didn't realize what he was doing until your question !!