Pets Mean So Much, Losing One Is Way Too Hard

[mouse]

Thanks Herc,
It was the hardest thing to do but In the end I am so glad that the last thing he saw was me and yes the love in his eyes was very much there He knew I believe. but the bad thing was it sent me spiraling out of control and I became very angry with life but I dont regret being there for him I hope someone is there for me in the end.

 

[Grama-Herc]

Hey Mouse! Anger is a big part of the grieving. Probably one of the biggest. Ride it out, acknowledge it and let it go. Keep the look of love you saw in his eyes in your heart and mind. Once the 2nd set of tears come rushing up like a waterfall, it will get better. Know that Hercules, Fancy Pants, B.C. and I are keeping you in our prayers. So go, grieve and then get back to life. But just allow yourself to actually do your grieving. KISSES HERC

 

[mouse]

Thanks Herc.

 

[pandora]

I am sorry about your loss...it is so hard to loose a pet. I feel for you too. Take good care of yourself.

 

[fdhionly]

condolences

Mouse,

Please be gentle with yourself about not being able to be with your beloved dog when he passes, and allow yourself to grieve in your own way. I think if you were intensely suffering it could make it harder for your dog to let go peacefully to whatever 'happy hunting ground' you believe in.

My thoughts are with you during this time. I have 2 dogs, one of which is a Border Collie. No matter what I look like, or feel like, they provide so much love. I can play with them, and walking them is the best anti-depressant. Over and over, my pets have been a lifeline when there has been no person.
Take good care, and please post updates on how you are doing with this.:Hug_emoticon:

With empathy,
Fdhionly

 

[White0nWhite]

Oh Mouse... being a pet-parent... and I'm all to familiar with losing dogs;
Last September we had to put my Grandmother's dog, Sammy, to sleep. He too had a stroke. It broke my heart, I had known him for 15 years. I was holding him while he was put to sleep... rubbing his head. It's tearing me up right now.
I really wish dogs lived forever, cats, and birds too. All of our pets that mean so much to us. Who can express more understanding and love with out words. Grieving over pets, and crying a lot, crying for them years almost a decade latter is not uncommon. (I had lost my husky-girl, Krystal, in 1999. She was my only -real- best friend as a kid. And I still cry for her.) Anger is a normal emotion too. Any emotion you feel about this is all right.
And I'm sure it meant the world to Jake to see you there with him as he passed. I still can't believe I was able to hold Sam, he literally died in my lap. You're a saint for doing that for Jake.

I wish I could give you a huge hug..

I don't know if this will help... But I adopted a cat in 2002, named September. And one night she wandered outside and ran up a tree. My dad and I were calling for her to come down (my dad eventually got a ladder and got her). But as we were standing there I was making the cat-whispering sound and my dad starting saing "Krystal come here, come on girl..." and I stopped him and he didn't realize what he had said until I pointed it out. And sometimes, I think, in some way. Krystal came back to us as the little tuxedo cat..

I kinda rambled there.. but I hope it was some help. :Hug_emoticon:

 

[mouse]

Thank you so much everyone for your words of advice, and compassion,I am not a very good griever obviously, but I am trying, hard this time to let the feelings and emotions flow. Jake was also my dog that comforted me when things were not going well at home or after I had taking a beating, or other things had happened, he was a true antidepressant you are so right as he alway had a grin and wanted to play and no matter what he loved me and wanted more time with me.

Amber