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Kerrie-ann and anthony,
Hi again, and sorry to basically use this thread as my own personal chat line, but it is very nice to be able to do. So, this time i need your opinions on something. Aside from chatting here, whenever i'd feel overwhelmed with thoughts i couldn't talk about with my spouse, i did the writing method to "get'm out". Now, awhile back i was talking to a friend who suggested using that and writing a very carefully thought out letter to my spouse. Since the confrontational feelings with talking face to face are so much, she figured the letter route could be calming enough to at least let my spouse know what's going on in my mind. And, if she didn't like what she was reading, she could put the letter down and walk away, and not deal with someone infront of her, caught up in the passion of a thought. Unfortunately, i know that she (currently) doesn't really "care" (she does but it's not on the top of her list of things on her mind) what is going on in my world. She's in HER world dealing/hiding from things in her way. Also, if she even read the letter, i'm sure it'd upset her since almost all if not all of the things i want to convey to her, she doesn't want to deal with. That's the reason i opted not to write her so far. Lately though, i've been wondering if maybe some of the things i can say/write might possibly help her find some sort of comfort, or path she's been looking for. You know? Heck, i was even thinking of suggesting us seeking therapy if i were to write too. I dont know, maybe i'll just write one and hide it away. Well, what do you two think of it? Coming from both sides of the spectrum (spouse and sufferer), i'd really like to know what you both think. Especially since you have been taking classes and such. Thanks again! Till next time, take care!
Hi again, and sorry to basically use this thread as my own personal chat line, but it is very nice to be able to do. So, this time i need your opinions on something. Aside from chatting here, whenever i'd feel overwhelmed with thoughts i couldn't talk about with my spouse, i did the writing method to "get'm out". Now, awhile back i was talking to a friend who suggested using that and writing a very carefully thought out letter to my spouse. Since the confrontational feelings with talking face to face are so much, she figured the letter route could be calming enough to at least let my spouse know what's going on in my mind. And, if she didn't like what she was reading, she could put the letter down and walk away, and not deal with someone infront of her, caught up in the passion of a thought. Unfortunately, i know that she (currently) doesn't really "care" (she does but it's not on the top of her list of things on her mind) what is going on in my world. She's in HER world dealing/hiding from things in her way. Also, if she even read the letter, i'm sure it'd upset her since almost all if not all of the things i want to convey to her, she doesn't want to deal with. That's the reason i opted not to write her so far. Lately though, i've been wondering if maybe some of the things i can say/write might possibly help her find some sort of comfort, or path she's been looking for. You know? Heck, i was even thinking of suggesting us seeking therapy if i were to write too. I dont know, maybe i'll just write one and hide it away. Well, what do you two think of it? Coming from both sides of the spectrum (spouse and sufferer), i'd really like to know what you both think. Especially since you have been taking classes and such. Thanks again! Till next time, take care!