Pseudosufferers; How Do You Identify Trolls?

[cherryblossom]

There is also culture differences. One culture may whisper to each to get their point across!

It isn't about cultural differences, it's about forum rules. Calling an active member a troll due to a posting in another thread is attacking. How would you like to be called a troll, in a thread that you possibly haven't read?

Keep this thread on topic, while taking forum rules into account.

 

[Nonexistent]

@cherryblossom , no, I get it. No need for me to look for protectors here, I know my issues. I have PTSD for a reason. Still can't get over the fact that it has been always the same, so I'm acting out and compulsively repeating old patterns. I'm not doing it consciously, so forgive me. You might think that I'm doing that on purpose, "attacking the other member". All I'm doing is looking for relief and ways to handle my own feelings of being desperate and intense fear of being hated. I was hurt, because that member showed aggression towards my attempts to help him. But you don't need to react in such a "law enforcement" manner, either. I felt attacked by you, too. As if I were a deliberate perpetrator meaning bad things. I feel that making mistakes here is very dangerous. It does help me to look at my ways of dealing with my feelings better, but I think I'm gonna take a break and maybe just read and not post anymore... I'm afraid I might say something that would get me kicked out of this forum, and then I won't be able to even read any threads... Anyway, I'm probably too handicapped to interact in a healthy manner right now... (Also I feel pressure for being scrutinized over my grammar (6 notifications!)) I get it, it's forum rules, but I have enough tension and stress in my life right now, so adding more by constantly worrying if I had written something wrong and I'll be punished really adds up to my anxiety, I'll just take a break. And thanks everyone for your support, it means much to me.

 

[cherryblossom]

But you don't need to react in such a "law enforcement" manner, either. I felt attacked by you, too. As if I were a deliberate perpetrator meaning bad things.

I'm a moderator, my role here is to enforce the forum rules. I'm sorry to hear that you felt it was attacking. I'm not attacking you, I'm enforcing forum rules. I can't change the rules, nor can you. Either we live and post by those rules or we leave the forum.

I was hurt, because that member showed aggression towards my attempts to help him.

I'm well aware of that other thread, it has been dealt with, and if I recall correctly I defended you in that thread.

However, just because someone attacks you, doesn't mean it's okay to attack them back.

I'm afraid I might say something that would get me kicked out of this forum

Perhaps re-read the forum rules, and abide by them. Thousands of members manage to do that. I have little doubt that you can too.

Realistically, all I want in all of this is to try to keep the peace. Don't we all have enough to deal with day to day in real life, without fighting amongst ourselves?

I'm losing patience with how many times I have asked for this thread to be brought back on topic, since that hasn't happened I'm locking the thread for further replies until it can be reviewed by admins.