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AnglikM
Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend who is a Afghanistan veteran for about 8 months. He has have his isolation times and even though they are super tough on me because in my brain its hard to understand how you can love someone and yet keep them away from you at the same time.
On February 13th he went into a big depression where he wont answer my calls or text messages. Then little by little he had improved and get back to me on text messages. After three weeks we finally met and spend a day together but his energy levels were very low. then the following week we were supposed to go out and spend some time together but he canceled on me like three times, always excusing himself with work scheduled. Last night he was supposed to come to my place but he ended up canceling me because I guess he was too tired after martial arts training.
every time he cancels on me I feel he doesn't care about me, because I feel I am just not on his priority list. I go sometimes very emotional on him because I do express him how I feel and the reason of why. I tell him how he makes me feel when he cancels on me all the time. I know he loves me and he cares for me, and I know that this is part of his PTSD, however me being a woman, we also need that re-assurance that our man love us and care about us.
He is a wonderful man and I deeply love him, but my question here is, what can I do on my part to re-assure him that relationships are not perfect and that his fear of screwing this up are normal, however we both need to give each other a chance to be happy. I feel he is afraid of being happy or worse, I think that he doesn't feel that he deserves to be happy again.
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