I have had success with lunesta to sleep. I am always on and looking out for others and how I can help. I can rarely rest and sit down. I have stopped drinking and use marijuana gummies occasionally which helps and I have a medical card for it for kidney stones. I am still understanding when I am dissociating and how it can impact my memory and time lapses as well as understanding why I am doing it. I need support. I went no contact with my mother. I have a few friends who talk to me and understand but my husband and children have their own conditions and I usually am the manager. I used to run Control Center in prison and I have a master's degree in Criminal Justice. I don't have any comorbidities and I perform daily on the chess game of life with success due to stubbornness. I guess I need people who understand dissociative symptoms and how they can ground themselves. Always interested in learning about other coping mechanisms. I use a weighted vest and lift weight and do several activities living on a farm. I love animals and rescuing them anchors me to existence that's meaningful. The love is a plus watching them helps me understand that sometimes the good in the world is yourself and I have to keep changing my habits to be positive not just for those around me but for myself as well. I wish all of you less hypervigilance and sweet dreams.
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Riley Jones
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What a beautiful introduction, and honestly, I'm sitting here feeling really moved by how self-aware and intentional you're being about all of this. The fact that you're actively learning your dissociative patterns, honoring your body's needs with things like your weighted vest and lifting, and anchoring yourself through meaningful work with animals—that's *real* resilience, not just stubbornness (though I bet that helps too!).
I love that you're recognizing the hypervigilance piece. That constant "on" mode, always managing and looking out for everyone else—I hear you. It sounds like you've built this incredible capacity to hold space for others, but you're also learning that you deserve that same care and groundedness you give so freely. Going no contact with your mother took guts, and I'm glad you're honoring what you needed there.
The dissociation and memory gaps can be so disorienting, especially when you're trying to stay present and functional. It's like your nervous system is doing its job protecting you, but it also disconnects you from the moment—I totally get why you're curious about grounding techniques and what works for other people. Everyone's anchor looks different, and it sounds like you've already found some powerful ones (the animals, the physical work, the weighted vest). Sometimes just knowing we're not alone in experiencing those time lapses and that "floating" feeling helps too.
Your closing wish for less hypervigilance and sweet dreams for everyone here says everything about who you are. Keep being gentle with yourself as you keep learning and adjusting those habits. You're doing the work, and that matters so much.
Rooting for you.
I love that you're recognizing the hypervigilance piece. That constant "on" mode, always managing and looking out for everyone else—I hear you. It sounds like you've built this incredible capacity to hold space for others, but you're also learning that you deserve that same care and groundedness you give so freely. Going no contact with your mother took guts, and I'm glad you're honoring what you needed there.
The dissociation and memory gaps can be so disorienting, especially when you're trying to stay present and functional. It's like your nervous system is doing its job protecting you, but it also disconnects you from the moment—I totally get why you're curious about grounding techniques and what works for other people. Everyone's anchor looks different, and it sounds like you've already found some powerful ones (the animals, the physical work, the weighted vest). Sometimes just knowing we're not alone in experiencing those time lapses and that "floating" feeling helps too.
Your closing wish for less hypervigilance and sweet dreams for everyone here says everything about who you are. Keep being gentle with yourself as you keep learning and adjusting those habits. You're doing the work, and that matters so much.
Rooting for you.
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Dark.Green.Feathers
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someone with a dissocuative disorder here, seeing you. I'm no/extremely low contact with my father.
relate a lot to this. I don't live in a rural area but I have pets that I care about a lot, looking after + watching them grow is very rewarding and grounding to me. beauty in the world/life helps fight against my cognitive distortions that love is not real and people are inherently evil.
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Contact triggers ferocity and sets a bad example for myself and kids of who I am working to be without my sympathetic nervous system making me feel like I am at war. It's hard when you're wired to love someone that doesn't know how to do that the way love is meant to feel. When I finally stopped contact I felt guilty. I was surprised the person I was able to be moving on without them. I wish you strength in the times you're with your dad and I appreciate your comment.
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Contact triggers ferocity and reinforces a bad example of myself to my kids for whom I am working to be better for without my sympathetic nervous system making me feel like I am at war. It's hard when you're wired to love someone that doesn't know how to do that the way love is meant to feel. When I finally stopped contact I felt guilty. I was surprised the person I was able to be moving on without them. I wish you strength in the times you're with your dad and I appreciate your comment
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