Relationship Ptsd+ptsd

[St.Maybe]

Hello, I hope this finds everyone well.

I haven't posted or been around in a long time but I'm very confused and could use some help.. my current boyfriend has ptsd and I've found it extremely difficult to handle his sensitivities.

Certain things upset him so much that he's all bit guaranteed to go off the deep end, hurting himself and damaging property. I don't always go the best job of not setting him off- particularly because there reaches a point where I notice he seems to be actively assuming what I'll say next without actually hearing me- so that I could be trying to apologize and deescalste the situation and he'll be accusing me of playing mind games or accusing me of engaging in abusive language. It'll start out like: "I know I know I'm a worthless ____" and will evolve into him saying "well you did a pretty good job of drilling into my head that I'm a worthless ____"

I get so confused and so upset because I don't want to upset or hurt him, and because I've spent my fair share of time being toyed with mentally. I'm at the point where I'm entirely paranoid about his* intentions, and whether or not he's trying to confuse and manipulate me*... quite lost.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Walk away from that mess. Don't even engage in it. He is lashing out, and there is going to be nothing you can say or do to diffuse that. The best thing to do is remove yourself from the situation when he starts.

 

[EveHarrington]

Imho he's abusive and not stable enough to be in a relationship. I think you should leave him.