General Ptsd

[Jimmy1]

Hey Everyone,

I just want to clear up a few things. There have been numerous posts blaming PTSD on relationship issues and stuff.

I even find myself falling into this trap too, but PTSD is just an umbrella term for a multitude of different symptoms. And Combat PTSD I believe just defines it even more (our traumas are combat related, and we have military conditioning to amplify our symptoms).

So, yes you break up because of an argument, he gets really abusive due to his out of control anger, and then shuts down because he gets depressed that he has done so.

Its not the PTSD that is causing the break up, its the untreated symptoms.

Just having my two cents worth, or two pence worth, or two bobs worth.

Jimmy

 

[sisu]

Yep....untreated symptoms is the key here Jimmy. My BF and I are not broken up and once this annual January episode is over I will find a way to talk about this very subject.

 

[sisu]

I'm sure you already know this, but wanted to clarify. My BF is not nor has ever been abusive. Not verbally, not physically ~ not at all. He is however shut down due to stress and an anniversary trigger.

No doubt he needs more help as the meds are not enough. Hopefully he will emerge soon as we are now on day 7. I am not holding my breath but am holding out hope!!
:)

 

[Jimmy1]

Never implied he was. Was just stating that a lot of people blame everything on PTSD when it is the symptoms not PTSD. PTSD is just a name given. Like cancer, asthma, or something else.

 

[NikkiNikki]

My BF has never been violent towards me either, though I could easily see him get violent with antother man if pushed..I've never even heard him raise his voice in my presence though... But I get what you are saying. The untreated PTSD and the huge amount of stress he has been under is def what has brought on this "shut down".

 

[sisu]

Jimmy ~ sorry about any mis-understanding. I know you never implied that my BF was any of those things....I just wanted to clarify for anyone else who might be reading this thread.... But you are absolutely right in your statement. Untreated PTSD symptoms are a problem.

 

[abnvet]

Yes, I agree, its not the PTSD, its the symptoms ..or the action of the person trying to hide the symptoms. This was my case. I tried everything I could to hide my symptoms. My exwife could see them, along with the rest of my family but I swore that I didn't have them. Of course not, that would make me "weak"...can't have that right?...

 

[FMG]

The thing to remember also is different people work differently in dealing with their symptoms. What may work for one of us may not work with the other and that you do need a lot of patience in dealing with us. There is no magic bullet, only the effort of the individual involved.

You do have to work around us for a while, but we do want to be better and to have a normal life.

Also I am not a fan of the carer moniker. It makes me sound like I cannot go to the toilet by myself and need to sleep on rubber sheets. You don't have to care for us, just care about us.

But that's me. I respond better to challenges before rewards.

 

[Jimmy1]

I agree mate. The guys around here keep telling me that when I am married and living with Margaret, she can be my carer.

But you know, sometimes I have really bad days and would love someone to go to the shops for me, go pick my boy up, etc. etc.

So I reckon 'Helper' would be a better name.

lmao, just putting it out there.