Childhood Questions about csa

[loui50]

I've thought since i was 16 that I may have been sexually abused by my step dad at the ages of 3-4 to around 6, but I did not have any concrete memories. I spoke about this in great detail with my T over several sessions and I'm coming to the conclusion that it probably did happen. However would he have just stopped when I reached a certain age? Like, Do predators have an age range that they prefer and when I got outside that range would he have stopped? He was always kind of perverted toward us as teenagers but I think the abuse stopped younger. I have partial memories that just stop mid memory and T said that small children usually dissociate which would explain the partial memories. Does this make any sense. I can go into more details but that would make for a very long post.

 

[Deleted member 8714]

@loui50 Yes, sexual predators who abuse children prefer certain ages. It's common for them to like anyone up to puberty. That's a common age cutoff according to my research. Though some go beyond that. They also have a sexual preference. Some abuse both boys and girls yet that's uncommon.

When I remembered what my father did I had zero memories of my childhood below the age of six. Even then my childhood memories were sketchy from six to eleven. Beyond that age they become clearer. I used to have DID so my memories came in pieces with pieces missing. I likened it to putting a jigsaw puzzle together.

Your memories make sense to me too based on my personal experience.

 

[loui50]

Thank you @Congruency for your reply. It is all coming together and kind of scary. But for the first time, things are making sense. I think My step dad preferred very young children. My little niece reported at 4 years old that he abused her. She was very scared but told me. I think he abused me, my sister and my little niece. Who knows who else. Now I have to figure out how to come to terms with it all.

 

[simplysawa]

I've thought since i was 16 that I may have been sexually abused by my step dad at the ages of 3-4 to ar...

I have partial memories also, I think it is common to disassociate especially during painful traumatic events. I have memories from maybe two or three and up, i usually remember how it starts, or bits in the middle. Maybe i remember more than im willing to admit. either way its hard