Hello,
I just finished typing this all up then I lost it so I may not put as much detail in as before...unfortunately.
My husband, I believe, has PTSD. He fits the profile very well (minus anger, as he is able to control it majority of times. But he says he has had major anger problems in the past). He has had various kinds of trauma towards him and loved ones throughout his whole life, only to continue dealing with the results of the affects today (PTSD).
A couple of months ago he was carrying our one year old down stairs and my husband slipped on the stairs. He hit his back (which is very bad to begin with) and our son slipped from his arms and off the side of the stairs, he fell approx. 5 feet onto his head. When my husband got to him, our son was unconscious and my husband thought he was dead. When our son awoke he had a seizure, we called 911 because we thought he may have a spinal. We were in the hospital for a couple days and tests showed that it was only a concussion. My husband blamed himself (and still does) for allowing harm to come to our son.
He was not himself and he was more like a zombie for weeks following. days after coming home from the hospital, we thought it would be good to get together with a friend. We had a little picnic at the park, while there our older son hurt his foot on the playground. When we got home we thought maybe his foot was broken and so I took him to the hospital. Before I left, our one year old kept waking up (it was evening) and I knew my husband would not do well taking care of him on his own, so when he invited our friend to stay, I thought it was good, thinking she would help my husband bring our son up and down the stairs if it needed to be done (to this day my husband doesn't do this unless he absolutely has to, otherwise I do.
Anyways, my husband is good at pretending he is fine and he did so that night, even though I knew he was far from it. our friend thought he invited her to stay because he liked her, and so she came on to him that night and kissed him, he kissed back. I know he had never had any attraction to her. He is a flirt by nature but had never flirted with her. When we talked about it he took full responsibility for his actions but also told me that he had no desire to do what he did. She came onto him and he reacted.
He is good looking and has had other more attractive girls come onto him, only to be turned down, but with the state of mind he was in at the time he didnt have the mental power to turn away (and she did it in front of the stairs).
I believe my husband 100%. I guess, it just still bothers me, just trying to find comfort. If I can get over this feeling of hurt, I can better help my husband with his own hurts.
Any opinions would be helpful. Thanks
<Edited by Amethist>
I just finished typing this all up then I lost it so I may not put as much detail in as before...unfortunately.
My husband, I believe, has PTSD. He fits the profile very well (minus anger, as he is able to control it majority of times. But he says he has had major anger problems in the past). He has had various kinds of trauma towards him and loved ones throughout his whole life, only to continue dealing with the results of the affects today (PTSD).
A couple of months ago he was carrying our one year old down stairs and my husband slipped on the stairs. He hit his back (which is very bad to begin with) and our son slipped from his arms and off the side of the stairs, he fell approx. 5 feet onto his head. When my husband got to him, our son was unconscious and my husband thought he was dead. When our son awoke he had a seizure, we called 911 because we thought he may have a spinal. We were in the hospital for a couple days and tests showed that it was only a concussion. My husband blamed himself (and still does) for allowing harm to come to our son.
He was not himself and he was more like a zombie for weeks following. days after coming home from the hospital, we thought it would be good to get together with a friend. We had a little picnic at the park, while there our older son hurt his foot on the playground. When we got home we thought maybe his foot was broken and so I took him to the hospital. Before I left, our one year old kept waking up (it was evening) and I knew my husband would not do well taking care of him on his own, so when he invited our friend to stay, I thought it was good, thinking she would help my husband bring our son up and down the stairs if it needed to be done (to this day my husband doesn't do this unless he absolutely has to, otherwise I do.
Anyways, my husband is good at pretending he is fine and he did so that night, even though I knew he was far from it. our friend thought he invited her to stay because he liked her, and so she came on to him that night and kissed him, he kissed back. I know he had never had any attraction to her. He is a flirt by nature but had never flirted with her. When we talked about it he took full responsibility for his actions but also told me that he had no desire to do what he did. She came onto him and he reacted.
He is good looking and has had other more attractive girls come onto him, only to be turned down, but with the state of mind he was in at the time he didnt have the mental power to turn away (and she did it in front of the stairs).
I believe my husband 100%. I guess, it just still bothers me, just trying to find comfort. If I can get over this feeling of hurt, I can better help my husband with his own hurts.
Any opinions would be helpful. Thanks
<Edited by Amethist>
