Blue Survivor
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My BF works in a large-chain coffee shop. Before I start work, I stop at his work for coffee and to visit him. He works alone. His job evolved from a "behind the scenes" job to a job where he is expected to work both behind the scenes (baking) and with customers (drive-through and the counter/register). Typical corporate stuff: 'why pay three people when we can make one person work three times harder' kind of thing.
On the side, he has started his own business which is doing well but not quite well enough yet for him to quit his day job. He sees money the way people who start counting calories see food: "If I drink that Pepsi, that's 150 calories; that's a half hour of cardio, I'll pass." So to him: people buying coffee and baked good is a "waste" of their money, and they are "stupid" to not realize this and and they are also "lazy" for not making their own coffee at home. I see him five days a week at his work, and all five days he says how stupid and lazy people are. Basically because A) they're "bothering him" at work and B) because they aren't trying to get out of the rat race too by starting their own businesses.
I tried telling him that if it weren't for these customers, he would not have a job. I suggested that he be thankful that he has this job to support himself while he gets his own business up to where he wants it to be. Nothing I say, including tell him that I find it very unattractive that he puts so many people down on a regular basis, seems to make him stop being so judgmental towards people. He just has this belief that he is smarter than the average person and this feeling that he has the right to announce it, loudly, within earshot of the customers. His parents are overweight & starting to get serious health problems because of it; I tried comparing his parents to his customers: if I told his parents that they are lazy and too dumb to eat a normal diet - how would he feel about that? He said: "Well my parents are overweight." I give up! I even nudged him to get a different job entirely if he's so unhappy at this one. I told him: "It is your job to give the customers what they order, that's it. It is not your job or your place to tell people that you think they are making bad financial decisions by ordering coffee and bagels; it is not your business how people spend their own money."
He still feels there is nothing wrong in any of this.
Thanks for reading this rant! I just needed to get this out :)
On the side, he has started his own business which is doing well but not quite well enough yet for him to quit his day job. He sees money the way people who start counting calories see food: "If I drink that Pepsi, that's 150 calories; that's a half hour of cardio, I'll pass." So to him: people buying coffee and baked good is a "waste" of their money, and they are "stupid" to not realize this and and they are also "lazy" for not making their own coffee at home. I see him five days a week at his work, and all five days he says how stupid and lazy people are. Basically because A) they're "bothering him" at work and B) because they aren't trying to get out of the rat race too by starting their own businesses.
I tried telling him that if it weren't for these customers, he would not have a job. I suggested that he be thankful that he has this job to support himself while he gets his own business up to where he wants it to be. Nothing I say, including tell him that I find it very unattractive that he puts so many people down on a regular basis, seems to make him stop being so judgmental towards people. He just has this belief that he is smarter than the average person and this feeling that he has the right to announce it, loudly, within earshot of the customers. His parents are overweight & starting to get serious health problems because of it; I tried comparing his parents to his customers: if I told his parents that they are lazy and too dumb to eat a normal diet - how would he feel about that? He said: "Well my parents are overweight." I give up! I even nudged him to get a different job entirely if he's so unhappy at this one. I told him: "It is your job to give the customers what they order, that's it. It is not your job or your place to tell people that you think they are making bad financial decisions by ordering coffee and bagels; it is not your business how people spend their own money."
He still feels there is nothing wrong in any of this.
Thanks for reading this rant! I just needed to get this out :)
