Rant - Boyfriend Belittles His Customers & I'm Sick Of It!

[Blue Survivor]

Wow y'all. I work with clients and it never dawns on me to do that because I'm there to provide a...

So true! I have reminded him that he is at WORK and that customers are part of his JOB but he thinks that is ridiculous. What he thinks he's supposed to actually DO at work is beyond me. As I'm writing this I'm only confirming to myself that he is an idiot.

 

[The Albatross]

All the more reason to constrain this one to "boyfriend" unless or until he stacks/rises to more intense scrutiny girlfriend. Do you like him? Do you love him? CAN you live with him? The answer to all three by the way have to be an unequivocal yes.. not yes "but". Sounds like you got a serious reason to hit the pause button.

 

[The Albatross]

I think personally I'd be sizing up my side of this "relationship". And... seriously examining the "boyfriends" against what I want/need/desire aspire to in a relationship. It ain't about fault, it's about suiting needs and compatible and amiable directions... That's what a long term partnership is ya know.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Shame you all can't find that in the people you deal with

Nope, sorry but I get screamed, literally, all day long. If I can't vent, (on breaks/lunches/after work, never in ear shot of the customer. I never agreed with that) I'd do very distructive things. And don't feel one bit bad for it either.

But, as you said, you don't work in a call center, where everyone gathers outside on smoke breaks to vent with each other because we are literally emotional punching bags.

Humans must vent upset and frustration. It is just how it is.

Rule number one, the client is always right. Rule number two ... see rule number one.

Haha! No! You just make them think that.

 

[The Albatross]

Why are you quoting me? This is Blue Survivor's thread. People can be whatever they want to be, but it's my job to be the person I want to be. And I can do that independent (mostly) of unpleasantness, swearing, sexual inappropriateness (yeah old men can do that and ya don't have to freak about it... ya just know how to handle it), or yelling/accusations etc.

It's called a J O B... and uh no I don't agree with, "Humans must vent upset and frustration. It is just how it is." - other than Mr. Oatmeal's continued boundary violations I don't vent or bitch about my clients. It is not what I do. And that is more who I am than what I'm feeling. It is what I aspire to be more often that giving in to impulse... but having several impulse control family members who can't do it I expect that too wouldn't be altogether surprising. I use restraint because I've been affected adversely and negatively and embarrassed by those in my family who can't.

 

[The Albatross]

Rule number one, the client is always right. Rule number two ... see rule number one.
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Haha! No! You just make them think that.

Eh no. If you are in a service industry... then you are there to provide a service straight up plain and simple. Know you're role and if you don't like it, then get another job.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Eh no. If you are in a service industry... then you are there to provide a service straight up plain and simple. Know you're role and if you don't like it, then get another job.

And I do that but I shall not feel bad for what I choose to do on breaks and lunches and after work.

And why did I quote you? Because I disagreed with you. I am not off topic.

Sad one talks about leaving a boyfriend over this.

I'm out.

 

[The Albatross]

It is a perception of the world that Blue Survivor questions and rightfully so. Personally it is no benefit to cultivate a longer term relationship that "boyfriend" with a person with a view that is oppositional in such fundamental ways.

It is a question of a life perception... and a preference... she has hers and has issue with his.

Disagree as you wish however I would suggest that when approached as providing a service, dealing with clients/customers gets easier when you recognize that your "service" is optional for people and how/if/when they respond is not personal. It is their reaction and it is equal to our own... no more no less... thus valid.

This isn't your thread it is hers. If you don't feel bad about how you vent/talk about your clients well then 's okay... but this is not your thread and because there is a rather basic difference between the OP and her boyfriends perceptual style and worldview... well, that was the reason for my caution with proceeding past boyfriend. But hey, to each 'er/his own.

 

[Sideways]

It sounds like this issue is a lot bigger than his work attitude. There's an underlying compatibility issue here. That's not so easy to resolve, and I'm thinking that if that's the kind of stuff he's got to say to you - you did right by yourself when you broke up with him.

If he thinks you'd "made up" your PTSD, even putting aside the ignorance of that, there's a whole lot of disrespect in a statement like that. That's not cool, and it goes well beyond burnout!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

If he thinks you'd "made up" your PTSD, even putting aside the ignorance of that, there's a whole lot of disrespect in a statement like that. That's not cool, and it goes well beyond burnout!

I missed that statement. I do agree there.

 

[Sighs]

Yup. Being an arse to his customers is one thing. Invalidating your PTSD symptoms is a whole different issue. If he's not supportive of you do you need or want him in your life?

 

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@The Albatross You're correct, the customer is always correct... In his own mind. The problem with customers, including myself is that we feel entitled because we pay for a service or goods.

@Blue Survivor if your BF doesn't believe you have PTSD, then IMO, you need a new BF.... Just sayin!!,