Rebel With A Cause!

[intothelight]

Been feeling frustrated, trapped, smothered, tied down, held back, etc. etc. Couldn't find the source of the feelings, but the realization hit this morning.

I now have a sense of me and what I want. But at the same time, I still lapse into the "people pleasing" behaviors that I always have. I recognize what I want, what I am doing wrong and hence the feelings. Before they didn't really connect to anything, because I never really wanted anything for me. Me was dependent upon what others thought, wanted, needed, etc.

So today I start my rebellion against what was:

• I will follow lifestyle changes, beCAUSE they help me feel better.
• I will say "no", beCAUSE I don't really want to do it.
• I will do what I want, beCause as long as it doesn't hurt you and even if you don't like it, it is not necessarily wrong.
• I will find my path to healing, beCause I need to heal in my own way and my own time.
• I will set boundaries, beCause I have a right to be comfortable.
• I will only continue healthy relationships, beCause the bad one's harm me.
• I will reduce stress, beCause I can't handle it like I used to.
• I will accept myself for who I am, beCause it is OK to be human and be me.
• I will live true to myself, beCAUSE I am sick of living a lie.

Any other rebels out there?

 

[Deleted member 6617]

I am "want to be" rebel! Wish I had some of your courage and strength and determination. You are an inspiration!

 

[Kim]

Good for you!!!!!!!

 

[Muzikluvr]

I'm on this path too! Yesterday I popped into a social situation, and I was kind of awkward... but on my way home I was thinking... yes. But I was ME.

And, I took note of each of them while I was there.
I remember more about each of them than I used to when I was just trying to make sure that people liked me.
And, I wasn't as afraid of them hurting me... I was aware of them... like I can see them too, yk?

It's freaky being in this stage of asserting my independence. But, I'll take it over people pleasing any day!

I like your list!

 

[intothelight]

This is really hard. Part of it is me, but I am also beginning to realize part of it is others. I have never been really assertive in some areas of my relationships. Meeting a bit of resistance and shock.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Hey into the light,

I've been away for a while, and this is the first thing I see, really like it :) I recognize both the pleasing part and the rebel part... I also have a tendency to please people (but only people that are close to me, like close friends). I do this because in the past, I was too agressive towards people who were close to me, and I felt pretty guilty for that. So I started to be overtly friendly instead, scared of losing their friendship, instead of listening to myself.

But in being so nice and fantastic I didn't respect my own desires at all, so in the end I just got really angry again. The anger helped me to stop pretending to be someone really awesome and start being myself again. This year, I had a problem like that with a close friend, I just kept being too nice to him and he kept occupating too much of my personal space. In the end I was forced to tell him directly how I thought about that, and it helped! First I was afraid that he would stop liking me because of that, but he was actually happy I'd been so forward.

I don't know if this applies to you as well, but I'd like to say that there is people out there who will appreciate you, even if you stop pleasing them and start being just you... still, I know how much energy it takes, it's a real struggle... best of luck!