Sufferer Rejected With Ptsd

[Deleted member 36516]

@Iluvhorses ! Thank you
no Therapy for social rejection & losing the social security

 

[Kallisti]

Thank you, @Kallisti !
But I've lost hope in therapy ... I have got therapy w...

There are many ways out of confusion, depression and lonliness. You'll find one, just hang in there. Maybe talking to other sufferers here can offer a tiny bit of consolation, meanwhile?

Can I ask if you feel abandoned by people you have trusted in before?

 

[Iluvhorses]

Im sorry about that :(

 

[Iluvhorses]

Hello again :) in my experience PTSD has caused me to feel disconnected from other people. I didnt really talk to people and when i did i felt very uncomfortable. There were times when i would see people i know and not even say hi. I wasnt trying to be mean. I was just uncomfortable, but they likely took it personally and started acting the same way towards me. Now that some time has passed and because im on new medication i feel more at ease with people and so im more outgoing. As a result, they seem more inclusive and friendly. Maybe its the same thing with you. Perhaps you feel disconnected from your peers which has translated into actions that have been misinterpreted. I was also depressed and angry over what had happened to me so everyone probably saw my body language too. Im still working on all of this so what im trying to tell you is that things like this cant change overnight.

 

[Fiona]

Thank you, @Kallisti !
But I've lost hope in therapy ... I have got therapy w...

It depends on the therapist and the therapy, as to whether that has any effect. Sometimes the therapist is trying their best to help, but since they don't actually understand the condition, they are unable to help. So it's a matter of searching for someone who gets it, not just someone who has a qualification.
Also try reading self-help books, but again be selective, as some are just so "inspirational" that it's obvious the author hasn't a clue how it actually feels to be in our situations.
Thirdly, try the meetup site for support groups near you. I've no idea if that's helpful or not, but since my regular support group has just been reorganised out of existence, it's something I'm going to start trying myself now.
Pills, well, some of them are like taking smarties, others I'm told are like zombie-making (not had the good fortune to be prescribed those), but my doc is keen on taking people off medication, which is hard going.
Social rejection is a big thing for me, as people do not relate to any kind of mental health issue positively. I have had people send me messages of support though, even as other people have either dropped me, or talked about something else when confronted with my suffering - way to increase my feeling of invisibility! Still there are some good friends out there, it just takes ages to find them, so keep persevering!
Anyway, keep trying and hopefully both you and I will have a more positive social experience!

 

[Deleted member 36516]

It depends on the therapist and the therapy, as to whether that has any effect. Sometimes the therapist i...

Thank you for your advice, but I can no longer feel safe socially, I have tried a lot of self-support, but the thing most important thing which I need it now that's joining of a accepted group which makes me feel safe with them, and I can be accepted.
So I decided to join this group

 

[Deleted member 36516]

Hello again :) in my experience PTSD has caused me to feel disconnected from other people. I didnt r...

Thanks again :tup: , maybe I need more time to reorganise my life and my thoughts about others ... I've become very sensitive and moody after my traumas, and I've started seen others as a good or evil.

 

[Deleted member 36516]

Im sorry about that :(

thanks for your understanding :(

 

[Nevermore]

@Ghaith wardeh I'm glad you found this forum. I too still have a lot of trouble trusting others.
I see an art therapist. It's really helped me - not so much talking, but a lot of expressing! Talking about it doesn't help me, but expressing my feelings and being understood really does.
You will find your own way.
Don't despair... It's a journey, long hard slog at times, but There are gifts and moments of joy along the way.
We are all trying to reconnect. That's the beauty of this website - even if it's from afar, you are connecting in a safe way.
I'm glad you're here!

 

[Deleted member 36516]

@Nevermore
I am so glad to meet you, thanks for supporting... I am so happy to be here also

 

[Deleted member 36516]

@Kallisti
Thanks for your interesting and supporting,
I don't know, it's complicated...
Yeah! I've lost all my friends ...

 

[Lilith Jane]

Hi Ghaith, ahlan, nice to meet you. I see you are posting from Norway, but your name is Arab - have you been in Norway long?

I'm so sorry that you are struggling from after-effects of trauma. I don't know what you've been through, but I'm sure you have survived a lot. Keep fighting.

When I was first diagnosed, I did a lot of reading trying to understand what happened to me (at first I struggled to understand my trauma, and I tried to minimize and ignore my experience). The concept that made everything "click" for me was the well-researched article which explained that lack of healthy social support is one of the main deciding factors of who, following a trauma, actually gets PTSD and who doesn't. Conversely, I believe that being well-supported socially and emotionally is a huge contributing factor to a good recovery.

I applaud your getting connected here on the forum, and I hope that reading and sharing here will be helpful to you, as well as helping to normalize some of your experiences with PTSD. Especially if you live in a community that stigmatizes mental illness, your struggles can feel very isolating, but I definitely identify with and understand your need for healthy, supportive relationships. I hope that you can find that support and connection - whether through therapy, support groups, or whatever means possible. Maybe you will be able to make new friendships where you can be open and honest and still be accepted. Best wishes to you.