Safe Places We've Used Or Are Using

[kimberley dawn]

So sad story, no safe haven, Lizio. But dreams are great, yes even the daydreams. Have a safe thought tonight for yourself if you can!
sending a safe thought
KD

 

[Srain]

And I sat in the graveyards there eating my lunch and nobody flinched one bit.

HA!!

In terms of safety a "place" can mean anything that is safe, perhaps something or somewhere literal and actual, or perhaps even just a feeling, memory or imagined image in my own head.

This is a great tool to add! I have to remember it but it's great!

Lizio- I was big on daydreaming and yours of being Super Girl is wonderful!

 

[lost4awhile]

Maddog and Scrain-Animals do bring a sense of comfort. When I was young and the house was always loud and chaotic I had a cocker spaniel that was a stray we adopted. He was so loyal to me. He would go with me everywhere. I was pretty young and sadly he was abused also, but we would run off together and I know he felt safe with me. Animals are so intune with how we are feeling. Sometimes I feel bad if I am sad because I know my companion, also a cocker spaniel:) can sense it. But, we walk to the park and his spirits are elevated as well as mine:)

Lizio-The bathroom was a safe place for me also. A lot of my flashbacks are centered there as it was a safe haven to get away from my mom. She wouldn't hurt her door. Studying makes me feel safe also. To this day I feel safe if I am studying, people usually don't bother me:)

 

[Harry6]

With my cats,
a world apart,
& In the woods,
far from all,

A very long time ago,
there was a woman I loved very much,
the only place that ever truly felt like home
was in her arms.

 

[maddog]

The bathroom was a safe place for me also. A lot of my flashbacks are centered there as it was a safe haven to get away from my mom. She wouldn't hurt her door.

God, this made me smile... and cringe.
People appall me sometimes.

Maddog

 

[lost4awhile]

Md-Yeah it's pretty ridiculous:) It's astonishing what is important to some people.

 

[kimberley dawn]

Harry6 - that's a beautiful poem!
Bathroom... My "daddy" covered the walls in tar paper and painted the bathtub too, so it was kinda creepy.
Srain - I realy got that sentance wrong, didn't I ? :D I ment the people walking by, ha ha!! :)
I had a dog while we were living in Scotland but one day I came home and my mum had given it away.... I always miss Trulte. She wasn't even safe at our home..

 

[atl22]

I sit with my birds. They calm me down because they can sense how I feel so I make an effort to be calm around them, especially the female dove. She was the runt and she was abused by the rest of the flock before we rescued her. I joke that she has PTSD too but it's not really a joke. She doesn't like loud noises, anger, or quick movements.

I know that I can calm myself down before entering her room. Knowing that, I try to remember "if I can do it for my little dove, why can't I do it when I am away from her?"

 

[Harry6]

Thank you Kimberly, it was nice of you to say so..

 

[shadowchaser]

My art. It's the one thing I control that no one else can influence.

 

[NIKI]

They only time I ever felt a little bit safe as a child was in the woods with my dogs. None of us kids would be home much. We tried to stay away from the house as much as we could.

When I had to be home at night I would also (like Lizio) fanatasize I had a different life.

 

[maddog]

As a child, I slept very little, and experienced much of my greatest fear and traumatised aloneness during the dark hours. It was impossible to physically escape most of the time, but somehow I developed a fascination with the silence. We lived in the country, and only in the country do you ever get to hear true silence, the kind that is almost deafening for its intensity when you really concentrate on it and isn't punctuated by the distant sounds of traffic or general city noise.

I would listen as hard as I could into the silence and imagine that I could hear all the way through to eternity. The harder I listened, the further into eternity I could go. Somehow, eternity was a safe place, a place where nobody could find me. I spent a lot of hours during a lot of dark nights concentrating hard, sure I could find my way just that little bit further than before into the eternity place, if only I listened just a little bit harder...

Sometimes it's almost sad to me that I can't play this game in the city. It was a false and meaningless childhood fantasy, but it brought me comfort, and distraction, and the tiniest thread of safety.

Maddog