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I sit with my birds. They calm me down because they can sense how I feel so I make an effort to be calm around them, especially the female dove.
I know that I can calm myself down before entering her room. Knowing that, I try to remember "if I can do it for my little dove, why can't I do it when I am away from her?"

I don't know why but it seems we can do things for our children or our animals that we can't do for ourselves. Why indeed???
 
My favorite feeling (besides sex with my wife) is the feeling of a hull sliding off of a trailer, or lifting off of a shoreline or slipping away from a dock. My Safe place is in any boat anywhere, but mostly in a small craft on a river, being moved along at what seems like relatively slow speeds when comparing your movement to the leaves and debris floating along on the same current, but what is really a pretty good clip in relation to the bottom and the shore line zipping past.

So many metaphores for my life at play here- the ability to see the big picture with the awareness of speed and danger and iminent rough water at some point, or just float peacefully, barely moving in relation to the immediate surroundings.

I learned a long time ago that if you find yourself in the water on a fast moving river, in the current out in the middle is the safest place to be. People drown when they panick and struggle against the current, fighting to the shore, grabbing at branches or trying to cling to rocks. If you are able and the water isn't too cold, just relax and float along, you will get spit out on a shore somewhere hopefully, and if you do need to fight a bit somewhere downstream, you will have your energy and your wits if you don't lose them both to initial panic.

My safe place is in a boat on any river. I can go there anytime I need to, smell the warm algae and hear the rapids, feel the paddle or tiller in my hand, see the bottom zipping by underneath me or see the leaves barely moving on the surface, it is all there for me.
 
When I was a kid I had a safe place in the top of an old oak tree. Now that I am older, safety seems to be an illusion and I don't really have a safe place, except in my mind. :confused: Does that count? ....I learned a self-hypnosis induction and it helps me to get to a safe place within myself. I guess that is a blessing that I hadn't previously counted.
 
Now that I am older, safety seems to be an illusion and I don't really have a safe place, except in my mind. :confused: Does that count?

Of course it counts!

I had forgotten the time I use to be able to do that. I would spend doing that until one day I was meditating and an image came at me out of the dark with a blade and it was difficult to come out of it. I don't 'trust' my mind. I am having to go back through the process of learning to so that I can once again do that but for now it is not something open to me or I THINK is open to me. Now there is something for me to work on ;)
 
I used to come home from school (where I felt a complete fish out of water, oddball) and take my dog out to walk in the woods.
Also no-one can touch you on the hockey pitch. So, I played a lot of hockey.
 
I always loved going to our cottage on lake Erie. We usually had a lot of company. So the b--h was on her best behaviour then. So that was my safe place years ago.
 
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