General Secondary PTSD

[Hojay]

And what you associate with ptsd symptoms that meant you harm, because he chose to do that.

I'm slowly but surely waking up to that fact, and all the excuses and manipulations I absorbed to allow that to continue happening. I'm sure he has PTSD, but I never truly understood the amount of choice he had in how he acted until now, after the relationship ended. How disorienting...but freeing in a way too. Thank you for pointing that out here :)

 

[dulcia]

@Never_falter2 - I reported the abuse and he has been charged with 11 counts of domestic violence. His firearms were seized. The court case is on 1 and 2 April 2019. The police have told me that even if he is found not guilty of all charges and even if the AVO is set aside they will write to the firearms registry and say he is not a fit and proper person to hold a firearm licence.

Holy F*CK @Sighs, I had NO FREAKING IDEA!

 

[LovingH]

That doesn't sound like SECONDARY PTSD to me. That sounds like just, straight-up PTSD of your own.

I had an ex who only threatened suicide on the phone, and I was severely traumatized by it.