Self Defense?

[Maddy75]

I was assaulted a couple of weeks ago. I didn't get raped, I managed to get away, but it was just luck.

I know I should do some real defense training, but in the meantime, I was told by my friend that if I am attacked and the guy exposes himself, if I get hold of one of his balls and squeeze as hard as I can, he will be helpless and then pass out or be incapacitated.

I would be afraid he would get more angry & more violent, but she swears he wouldn't be able to. I asked if she had ever done it. She said no but she "heard".

I don't really trust what she "heard", so I was wondering if anyone has had the experience of truly incapacitating a guy by squeezing or hitting his balls; or the reverse, just making him more angry. I mean, I know it hurts, of course, but can it really put an angry violent man out of action? The worst thing would be to make things worse. Does any one have any real experience?

 

[Reclusive]

Wow, Maddy! I'm glad you were able to get away! How frightening!!!! I've 'heard' a lot about self defense and what not, but I don't have any first hand experience or balls, so I can't confirm nor deny. I am a huge fan of the 'run like hell' defense, though.

 

[amethist]

Maddy, as long as you make the first hit count, it will knock the wind out of him long enough for you to get away.

The best way to go with this Maddy is, (sorry guys not meaning to make your eyes water), grab hold has hard as you can and then twist, hard and fast.

From a man's perspective, it hurts, and I mean really hurts. It could be a while before they can breath, see and talk coherently.

The other one is to, if you can, punch them in the thorax, fist, knuckles or straight fingers, that hurts too, but again only one chance to get it right. You have to hit it bang in the middle with as much energy as you can muster.

After any of these run like hell.

Amethist

 

[Brontie]

Maddy75,

I’m really glad you were able to get away.

And now a warning. Sorry. It’s true that we attract that that we think about the most. Google The Law Of Attraction.

I’m concerned that if you are over-concerned about being attack you might well draw that to you.

Sorry I know this may not be a popular topic here but if it helps save a life…

In order to alleviate those thoughts and fears of being attacked, if I were you, I would seriously look into some self-defence classes. You take control before your fearful thoughts take control of you. Okay?

 

[njray]

Maddy,

I am thankful you were able to escape... Any strong and direct shot to the groin area will debilitate a male but to be honest it has to be a good direct hit... The twisting and grabbing you described would definitely work but if I get it correctly that method would only work if he was barely or nearly completely unclothed and if that be the case a heightened state of arousal may afford him the extra strength to repel a not perfect attack. Please take self defense classes instead of just "hearing" about ways to defend yourself. Please remember men also learn methods of combat so if you do righteously physically retaliate in self defense always be prepared for a fight for life.

As one that has been involved in attacks on myself by those with weapons to which hand to hand combat was used to defend myself from an attacker who was absolutely going to kill me and also one that has used psychology in defense as well to suppress further attacks I would suggest seeking a self defense course that not only one would learn defensive action in the physical sense you might want to take a course to where you may learn how to use psychological warfare so it may be added to your defensive actions as coming face to face to someone whom has deadly weapons is much different than just a few blows from a fist or kick.

 

[atl22]

I also agree that you should take a self-defense class, especially one that is designed for women. There are many courses specifically designed for women. Most of these courses usually have a male in a padded suit so that the students can apply what they have learned with full force on a real male. This kind of real-life experience can give you the self-confidence needed to survive a confrontation. Typically, the basic idea is: can't see / can't breathe = can't fight. These self-defense courses teach a woman how to disable a man as quickly as possible in order to escape or to break an arm or leg and then to escape.

On the streets, there are no rules and no concern for liability. The only rule is to survive by any means possible and that includes fighting "dirty". From my experiences, no one fights "clean" when they are attacking someone. Assuming that you are only going to use these techniques in a legitimate situation of self-defense, you need to learn how to fight "dirty" in order to overcome the height or size advantages a male may have over you.

It is also correct that men learn methods of combat, including how to defend against a groin shot. The Chinese learned thousands of years ago that the first thing that men do in a fight is kick you in the groin, so they specifically developed stances that minimize that possibility. I, for example, have spent many, many hours just practicing the techniques to make a groin shot nearly impossible. If the attacker knows these techniques, then you need to have as many options as possible, especially learning how to stop them from breathing or seeing.

The attacker may also be on drugs so they might be able to overcome or ignore the pain while they continue to attack you. For that reason, you need to move beyond just temporary pain and learn how to physically interrupt their ability to breathe or see. The final step is to cause a debilitating amount of pain by breaking a bone. Please remember: when fighting for your own survival, cruelty is your friend.

I hope this helps.

 

[AngelaMarie]

Thank goodness you got free!
Another trick is go for the eyes. You can also hold a key between 2 fingers. Sharp point out!!! Quite a weapon.
Whatever you decide to do I hope it empowers you and you are not fearful!
Good for you...getting away!
Wishing you the best.:)

 

[atl22]

I forgot to mention that one thing you could do immediately is buy a self-defense key fob, such as a Kubotan. Just make sure that it is legal in your jurisdiction. You can use this as a force multiplier to maximize the effect of your strikes. It is small enough to fit in a purse. With a little knowledge of some vital strike points, it is a very effective weapon.

 

[ronin47]

I've taken a fair share of karate, kick boxing, and self defense classes. In all honesty, I can adequately summarize the entirety of the art of self defense in five simple words.

Kick him in the balls!

 

[alixipain]

Ok first when kicking in the balls you have to twist your head and shoulders opposite of his or lean backwards but not so far you knock yourself off balance to get out of the way of forward movement of his head (a males internal programing *in the brain* to protect vital parts) youll get head butted possible knocking you unconscious. Being he exposed himself you have to do what is important to insure your escape and he feels pain. Consider the fact his clothing defends you from getting a good trusty grip on those "joy toys for him" The best defense is to grip his member and pull outwards as hard as possible! Rip it off if you have to. it will incapacitate him for hours! (be like pulling his butt hole through it) The balls if exposed will as well but wont incapacitate for as long.

When kicking balls you swivel your shoulders and head away from his then as his head comes forward you use your knee and grip his head and cram your knee into his face as hard as possible. He will be down for the count. if there are more than 1 instead of kneeing face you cram your thumbs into his eyes (If you think you cant grip his head like a cantaloup use your fingers cram fingers into eye sockets and cram thumbs into his ears) and use him as a weapon against the others where ever you take his head his body has to follow *all humans response to save head* this action can cause breaking the neck but remember your escape from harm is more important! By tossing his head towards the others and letting go you remove the threats so that you can run like hell. If your wearing heels ditch them as you toss SOB around.

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is a good source self defense training (constant training) will also help train your reflexes. I remind my g/f the reason I exercise is not for fitness but to keep old body in fight not flight shape.

 

[caliaviator]

To take down a guy you can do a 1. Classic kick to the groin (if he's stupid enough to be in front of you) 2. Punch him in the throat 3. Do a Knife hand strike on the side of the neck (use the side of your hand not your fingers) the assailant's 4. Kick his knee if he's in front of you (using your heel not your toes as if you were kicking down a door). You can also use the palm heel and strike at the bottom of the nose snapping the cartilage and making him bleed; dazing him for a bit. Also striking the solar plexus will put anyone on the ground.

This is pretty much advice I can give if you have no experience defending yourself. I would advise you to study the weak points of the human body and know them by heart. So when you come across a situation like this again you know exactly where to strike and how. But I do recommend you get into a sport that allows you to defend yourself while in close quarters and on the ground. Boxing and Judo both employ these techniques.

Kicking someone in the balls doesn't always work, as any mugger or assailant that has experience will want to get the drop on you. No experienced assailant will jump right out of the alley and say *give me your money* while standing in range of a kick. they're going to go in fast and hard from behind or out of your line of sight on the street corner and you won't see it coming (though you might hear it). But if the person is inexperienced and he makes contact with you keep moving, track him, and prepare a scenario in your head to where if he does attack you will do something to counter it. This is what I learned in boxing, be strategic with your strikes. See a vulnerability and exploit it if the time comes.

But most importantly of all, you need to be used to fighting and build up your confidence otherwise you'll lock up in the moment of truth. Get into a school that gives you the opportunity to do some sparring regardless of your level. Growing up I fought on a weekly basis because I was being bullied frequently, and I eventually got better at reading people's body language planning my punches, and if it came down to it doing some ground fighting. I always left with the other person's blood on my shirt and arms.

Finally, I recommend you get this handsome devil. he doesn't have a crotch but as I said before kicking someone in the balls is only good when you can see the fight coming. You need to learn where to punch above the belt.

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That's pretty much my advice in a nutshell lol.