Self Help

[Deleted member 19292]

Cherry blossom, you didn't notice, but it says a few times, in this link, this isn't self help, but part of therapy, and counseling, in a controlled environment, not to be undertaken on your own, I don't do contracts, I have nothing to fill the contract with, or diaries, as there are some things, I can't write about, it is a serious trigger. I don't have any grounding techniques, or know of any that actually work. You can't ground in the present, if there is no present. These techniques do not take in to account combat trauma, or the differences from other trauma. This is a therapy treatment, provided in a controlled in patient setting, which I still don't have access to. Thanks for at least posting it, though.

 

[cherryblossom]

You obviously read it all differently to me. I read it as self help. Something you can work through on your own, without a therapist. At no point does it say you must have a therapist to assist you in the process.

Anyway, if it's not appropriate for you, then just ignore it.

I don't have any grounding techniques, or know of any that actually work.

There is a thread about grounding techniques, perhaps there might something suggested there that you can try [DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/grounding-101.12459/#post-187825[/DLMURL]

 

[BloomInWinter]

Hi Silentbob,

Can you clarify why you cannot get books, or speak with a therapist? Are you isolated somewhere? It would be easier for me to give suggestions if I knew more about your isolation and resources.

 

[Deleted member 19292]

BloomInWinter, I do not hold a library card, nor are there any such books available at the library.

I do not have access to purchasing sites, to get books, nor do I possess a credit card to purchase them with.

I do not have a therapist, there aren't any therapists available, for a very large area, and I live in the largest community in the area. I am not geographically isolated at all, only as far as a lack of therapists, counseling, or VA medical care.

I don't have anywhere to go, or move to, or any means of doing any of those things. This isn't just because I am avoiding, or whatever excuse someone wants to come up with, to blame me for not reaching out to resources. And, yes, that is just what I am hearing.

 

[BloomInWinter]

You can pick a book you would like to read, and ask the library if they can get it in for you on interlibrary loan. Or, they will often add such requests to their list and the supporting organization will purchase it for them. Even if those don't work you can join your local free-cycle online group and request those books.

Also, you can ask your local coffee shop or library to let you hang a 'looking for' note on their bulletin board. Also, the local Altrusa Club may purchase the books for you. You could also put in a request with your local VFW, university vet's club, or any church.

As far as therapy, we had nothing for vets anywhere near, so we have set up a vet's only counseling facility at our local university. They offer the service to all vets, whether or not they are students. The university pays for it all. The VA approved psychiatrist and counselors video-conference with our vets so they don't have to travel the four hours one way to the nearest facility. There are many such facilities being set up.

All YMCAs must give a certain percentage of 'hardship memberships', which they grant to those who could not afford memberships otherwise. All I had to do was ask for an appointment, talk about my situation to the director, and they gave me a free basic membership. Also, many gyms and clubs have such programs.

It's unfortunate that you took my questions as blame, as there was none. Go back and read my post, and you'll find no emotional language whatsoever. All emotions you feel come from within, just like for the rest of us.

When my world view changed, I started being able to accurately read what was written and said without reacting to what I thought was the motivation behind it. We can't read anyone's mind.

Hope you find help.

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

Download books - there are even some free ebooks out there, not that they're always fantastically helpful, but it's something. If you're lucky enough to own something like a Kindle you can read them on that, or a smartphone or computer. You can get a small bit of software to convert files to be the best format for any device but they'll read other files any way. If not just the internet can help and here can be good too.

 

[Deleted member 19292]

It's unfortunate that you took my questions as blame, as there was none. Go back and read my post, and you'll find no emotional language whatsoever. All emotions you feel come from within, just like for the rest of us.
I did not take it as blame, you insulted me, and feel you have a right or privilege to do so. I lack emotion, therefore, nothing comes from within. Sort of the problem, and why I am asking for help and information. I do not have a library card, to use the library system, and, yes it is required.

Even if those don't work you can join your local free-cycle online group and request those books. We don't have one, never have.

Also, you can ask your local coffee shop or library to let you hang a 'looking for' note on their bulletin board. Also, the local Altrusa Club may purchase the books for you. You could also put in a request with your local VFW, university vet's club, or any church. We don't have a coffee shop, or a library bulletin board. Or Altrusa Club, whatever that is. VFW doesn't accept any requests of any sort, as they do not have any support themselves. Sad, but true. We do not have a local university, at all, nor do any churches, do anything of the sort. I can't even join the local churches, catholic, Presbyterian, baptist. Their call, not mine.

The VA refuses any tele health services, of any kind, period, and will not discuss it. I've tried. I have no way to set that up, to begin with. We don't have gyms, or YMCA.

My world view has never changed, I lack emotion. I realize, it is easier to blame me for there being such a lack of resources, and support, or to simply say, that I'm not doing enough for myself. Gee, thanks.

I don't have any support, or help, with this. I don't have a VA POC to call, there still isn't one. I'm trying to handle this on my own, not by choice, but by necessity.

 

[BloomInWinter]

It's apparent that you are uninterested in any further suggestions, and unable to discern support offered freely and without judgment.

I wish you luck on your journey.

 

[The Albatross]

When I was diagnosed with many food allergies Bob, it was more helpful for me to list what I could eat than what I couldn't. Maybe you can try to come up with a list of what is available to you. It is more difficult, but it can be worthwhile.

 

[myvetswife]

What are you actually expecting? There is only so much where you can get help. If nothing is available I would drive miles to get help. But nothing seems right for you.