Separating Yourself From Family

[Deleted member 38644]

My mother calls me crazy because I have separated myself from the family almost completely. I don't call anybody and havent called my sister in almost a month. I never really talked to my cousins anyhow. I don't visit none of my family members. I'm staying with my mother until I leave. She tells me something is wrong with me and that I'm crazy because I am leaving people alone. I won't even talk to my father. I haven't talked to him in almost 3 weeks now. I have been trying to do this for so long without picking up the phone and apologizing the next day. Somehow I am able to do it today.

 

[Fadeaway]

Try not to let her get to you. Keep focused on doing what is right for you and making healthy choices.

 

[Lee2001]

Great job on this! Takes a lot of courage and hard work to get to this point!

 

[Bloomy]

I sign well done job on this hard task that takes courage and bravery to pull through. And yes - dont let your mother pull you in by her toxic words. Choose what is god for you and choose what takes care of you. Thats what matters and you mother should be crazy to not reckognice this.

Take care and stay well

 

[Deleted member 38644]

I finally gained the strength because I always felt trapped all my life. I don't even take her anywhere. I'm just trying to leave these toxic people behind.

I sign well done job on this hard task that takes courage and bravery to pull through. And yes - dont le...

Thank you!! It helps a lot

 

[Bloomy]

I appreciate to hear Lauren. It took me long time myself / was a long process cause "mother" kept pulling me back with guilt, shame, blame, manipulation and God knows what. And "sister" too. But definetly one of the better choises I ever did in order to not mentally die, but instead move on. Changed my last name and now "live happily ever after"

Wish you all the best - blessings

 

[mamachick]

My mother passed 15 yrs ago but I had gone through the boundary issues with her as she was an alcoholic. I had 3 sisters too, that were also raised in same environment but didn't get help...had to set boundaries there too. At times, I have not had contact with sisters due to drama created. A couple yrs ago, the closest one passed away. When she died, on of the twins was physically abusing her while under hospice care. It was horrible. I have not had contact with this sister since. The other one has 3 grown kids all suffering addictions. Her son is dying of cancer, but that does not prevent her from making up stories and spreading lies. Any contact can be toxic.

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

Cutting contact with some of my abusive family members was the best thing I could've ever done done for myself. I finally put myself first and I had always been so worried about keeping the peace and not upsetting anyone that I totally neglected my self.

Someone here put it in terms I could understand they said we understand it's hard it's one of the hardest things you'll ever do we know that but we're still saying do it anyway. They were so right it was one of the hardest things I ever did and I'm so glad I did it anyway.

Good for you!