To me, you sound like someone who’s so anxious they don’t even realize that they have multiple options here. It’s like you’ve accepted that toxic parents rule all. That’s not true. You can put your foot down. You don’t have to keep saying these issues like they’re proof you’re wrong, you can just present them as worries :)
She wasn’t intended to be a service dog, just a pet.
And?
My dog started out as a family pet as well. She still behaves like one when off duty. But when I took her to finish her training, no one complained. Because a working dog is way cooler than a pet dog.
She’s equally as attached to me as my mom because I was away at college and my mom took care of her, so I would feel bad about breaking that bond.
My dog had to stay home for almost a full two years while I was working things out at college. She got pretty close to my mom. She does get excited when she sees my mom. But she prefers to spend time with me.
She was stressed on the first day away. She didn’t want to eat, and she didn’t want to work for about two days. Which was fine with me, but since then she’s learned to adjust and has never needed that time since. It is completely possible.
I get that the dog was gifted for the whole family, but your parents can easily get another dog who better suits them. Compared to you who will be more likely to have to wait a year or more to find the right friend.
We had a family cat called Tiger who I viewed as my cat, when I was in my late teens, early twenties. (I’m early twenties now, but I mean earlier. Even LESS experienced me :P.) My little brother decided the cat would make an excellent ESA for his anxiety issues. I was totally against this because I viewed the cat as mine, as said, and was positive he was being selfish. I did not get my way, because he was firm. He made it clear that he needed an ESA, and why get a new one when this cat already fit the bill? So I relented, and everything worked out.
You’ve got to be firm.