Relationship Sex

[Nelson2015]

My Fiancé left me about a month ago due to his Combat PTSD with TBI. We lived together for 3 years, but no longer. The 2 weeks before we broke up we didn't have sex. He seemed so uninterested. Since we have broken up we have had sex, sexted, and talked about future things we want to try in the bedroom. Is that normal? I have always heard the people with PTSD find it easier to have sex with a stranger (which would kill me)... but we obviously have an emotional and physical connection.

What do you think guys?

 

[anonymous]

I am a sufferer, and yes, speaking from experience, it is easier to have sex with someone you're not emotionally tied to. My trauma is different, but with a stranger, the emotional part of sex isn't hit on, so no danger of being triggered.

 

[Nelson2015]

I'm so confused as to why he wants to have sex with me. I know he could have possibly turned his emotions off due to his mental state, but the attraction is so real. And he isn't isolating me like one would think since he ended our engagement. Everyday is different. I have wondered more than once if he has been with anyone else just because this is all so new and different for me. And I have read a lot, but he really is only into me, and will not even take care of himself (if ya know what I mean) without thinking and telling me about what he wants to do to me.

Confused?

 

[Nelson2015]

He used to attach me to his triggers... but has since said that I no longer trigger anything.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Is he around in other non-sexual ways?

 

[Nelson2015]

@Sweetpea76

Yeah... We have talked about setting up some days to hangout (When work dies down in a couple weeks), we talk all day sometimes sending funny pictures and stuff, he is starting to show concern for my safety again, and the other day when we hanged out he asked for a hug (which it isn't not normal for us to hug... Just for him to ask for one) and a kiss (which is reeeeeaaaalllly weird for him to ask since we have broken up)... idk if that's considered sexual though. He is starting to apologize for things like not texting back, or when he thinks his anger spiked.


I think he has started medication without telling me... which I am supportive of.

Now... He didn't talk to me today which is still a step back if you ask me, but the appropriate space was given.

 

[Sweetpea76]

It's hard to say... only he knows what he is thinking or doing. It may be a good sign if he is still around and affectionate in ways though, he could have no contact with you at all.