Sexual boundaries

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Thanks for all your responses. It helps to read those. I also have problems asserting or even feeling bou...

I was never "allowed" to say "no" to anything as a child. If I did, the abuse got 10 times worse. So, I understand how hard it is to set boundaries. If i am with someone safe, I can do it, no problem. But, if the person becomes hostile or threatening, I get too afraid and am liable to comply. (If i cant excape). Of course i do not like this about myself. The most important thing i try to do is stay away from unsafe people. This takes skill and has taken me a lifetime to try to figure out who is safe and unsafe. But if they make me afraid or feel bad about myself, that is a BIG clue they are unsafe.