Sexual Harassment In The Workplace

[Michelle1991]

Hi everybody. The reason I am on this website is regarding sexual abuse. Ever since I was 18, I have been attracting very abusive men. Sometimes I feel like I have a sign on my back, begging for people to abuse me.

I have a very good office job which helps me pay my way through university. A new employee started working there a few months ago and we hit it off nicely. I was excited that there would be someone close to my age working there with me. We were always friendly to each other.

Last Friday he began texting me at work VERY inappropriately. He had the nerve to ask me to "fool around" with him at work. I was disgusted at how little he clearly respects me after all...

About a month ago I was strangled by my significant other. I seeked help from a counselor immediately to prevent scarring from this memory.This incident at work made think, how can I respect myself when nobody respects me?

Have you ever had any experiences like this at work? What did you do?

 

[Barberian]

I've never experienced what you have written about. That being said, there are laws about sexual abuse in the workplace. I suggest telling tha man in question to stop his advances to you. They are not welcome and will not be tolerated. Warn him that there are laws about sexual misconduct in the work place and you will notify the company you work for and possibly press criminal charges if he continues.

You deserve a work place free of discrimination and abuse, it is written in law.

 

[AABMT]

I have experienced what you are talking about and its a very uncomfortable postion to be in. It almost makes you ask yourself "is THAT all men are interested in with me? To sleep with me or abuse me?" It stinks. What I have done is I tell them I'm not interested in them in that way but I try to do it in a light hearted way. For me, I dont want to alienate the person and that just might be some of my issues creeping in. However, you have to stop it because it will only get worse... trust me.. been there. Silence tells them that its ok to keep it up and the messages will get really vulgar. Your voice needs to be heard and you have every right to say that makes you uncomfortable so please stop. Good luck.. I know its a tough spot to be in.. and is hurtful and disappointing too.