General So Happy I Have To Share!

[ProudWife99]

This isn't something I would even consider sharing with those in my life who haven't dealt with PTSD because they'd look at me like I'm crazy (I am SO used to getting that look). My A and I have been married for over a year (year and a half anniversary on valentines day) and when we first got married and I brought up changes in his behavior that I thought may be PTSD symptoms he completely shut down on me and said it wasn't PTSD but having me for a wife.

This week I gathered all the strength I could muster and approached him to discuss his recent attitude. He has been pretty distant lately and his temper has flared much more often. I was terrified I would get the same response from him, but immediately after telling him he actually thanked me!

He told me he appreciated me being brave enough to be honest with him, that he hadn't noticed but was lucky that I loved him enough to see the difference in him, and immediately scheduled an "emergency" counseling session (skipping his weekly basketball game with his friends) to discuss what I had told him.

My husband THANKED me and trusted my feelings regarding his attitude. I'm still shocked, but so unbelivebaly thankful. We have worked so hard and been through so much that it is those things that remind me I've constitently made the right choice.

Yay!

 

[Nicolette]

Very happy for you both!​

 

[Tinyflame]

You truly should be so proud, trust is so hard and long to earn- such patience and hard work and love and courage!
Comfort and happiness to you both :):tup:

 

[Tinyflame]

Was thinking about this, ProudWife99 only you know for certain (what's best), but I think don't be afraid to share your happiness with your husband, and to show you're proud of him. I'm not sure- maybe it is different for men- but as a female sufferer it has always made me feel good, if that happens. And I don't mean it in a 'parental' way; I just think that myself and many other sufferers here have said that we are so unsure of our decisions, so lacking self-esteem (often), and so genuinely happy when we don't 'screw up' (speaking for myself), it feels good, for everyone, when we get it 'right'.

I know myself- and so many here- are most happy too when we can help 'make' others or loved ones 'happier'. (-Due to popular belief we aren't out to drive everyone crazy- though it may appear so, lol :rolleyes:)
:tup: xox

 

[Toria]

That's wonderful!!! :inlove:

I think it's vital to make the most of the little moments of joy - and that's a big moment so you're quite right to be proud, happy and sharing!!! x

 

[simplekindofgirl]

Epic.:D

 

[ProudWife99]

Junebug - You are so right. After I posted this I brought it up while we were making dinner last night. I just let him know how wonderful it felt to be able to share and how even more wonderful it felt to have him respond so compassionately. He lit up and walked a little taller for the rest of the night. Knowing that my joy meant so much to him was an added bonus! Thanks for the advice.

 

[Pale Warrior]

Small victories!

 

[PTSDMama]

Rejoicing with you! Yay for you AND hubby! What an awesome thing - thanks for sharing!

 

[ProudWife99]

I know this is an old thread - but I'm going to revive it to share yet another victory.

The husband and I successfully navigated a very difficult conversation last night without yelling, name calling, and a limited amount of cursing. There were moments it got a little heated (on both sides) but we both opted to stay as calm as possible and respect the feelings of the other.

As I sit at my desk this afternoon and go over it I feel pretty good! I'll reward myself with another cup of coffee (that I never allow myself past noon!).