Relationship Stay Or Go?

[p-no]

I'm sorry to hear this, Tina. Wishing you lots of strength.

 

[Goldilocks]

Thank you all for your comments. I left on sat night with my son and stayed at a hotel in town. My hubbie and I had gotten into one of those unending/pointless 'debates' because I had sat him down and told him that he needed to get more help, I was tired of being in emotional turmoil. Well, after a couple of hours of being told all that I do wrong and feeling like I was going mad, I left. My son and I ordered pizza and watched movies and talked unitl midnight. My hands did not shake and I felt so very sad, but not like a beaten dog. I was hoping that since when we left he was crying and upset it might sink in a bit...nope. He got drunk and watched war movies!!! I was told last night that the ball is entirely in my court..I'm the one who wants to go and there is nothing he can say or do!! Guess I have my answer.

How incredibly sad it had to come to this - having read through the various responses it is unfortunately very clear that, even after all this time, no-one truly understands the devastating effects PTSD has, not only for the injured person, but also for the family and friends who struggle to make sense of it all. What is very important to understand is that PTSD is a psychological injury and as with any 'injury' left untreated, it will remain an open wound. My heart goes out to those of you who have to deal with a loved one who suffers from this debilitating disorder.

I have PTSD so I know all very well how difficult it is to understand why a sufferer might not seek help and a lot of the time it is because it can go hand in hand with a major depressive order and that make for a very big wall to climb - especially if the sufferer is in denial because they are afraid of being told they are mentally ill.

You must do what you have to do, but I would ask all of you out there who do not have this disorder please remain compassionate - I know it is hard and thankless but I have had to try to come to terms with the fact that I am simply not the same person I was five years ago and my resentment towards the person responsible is immeasurable. We also feel very resentful towards those around us who assume that if we 'get help' all would be well with the world and . . wait . . is that a pig I see flying in the sky?

By all means stand your ground, lay down some rules and/or 'demands, but please remember to cloak your words with compassion,love and empathy.

 

[tina_562]

I have not had a trauma free life..why can't HE learn to use compassion, empathy and love?
Until you do EVERYTHING that is supposed to help..and you are still called a stupid c+#t in front of your kids at christmas..you don't know what I have compassionately dealt with. There must be a limit.