Faithful01
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Hello Everyone!
I'm new to this forum and read different post once in while when need be. I first started reading when I find out my man told me he had PTSD 7 mos into the relationship, which wasn't the case.
In December 2009, I noticed a change n his behavior which was out of the blue. I thought was ok. He would tell me he didn't want to be with me, or he was done, he wasn't in love with me, which completely caught me by surprise cuz he told that I had tht I had the traits he was looking for. I didn't want to talk, withdraw from me and didn't want to see me. I was co-fused and didn't understand what was going on. The distance and not wanting to talk to me and saying hurtful things had be hurt and confused. All the while still there loving him.
Fast foward 2 yrs 7 mos , when he stressed he always take his breaks or time out and its so hard although I know its been 2 yrs its never easy to deal with.
I have educated myself on this illness and being a therapist its still isn't easy. He knows I luv him, he said tht he trust me and don't want to keep hurting me. I know he loves me, he's caring, funny, my bff, into me, respects my family, still taking time out bothers me at times because we didn't talk the month of Sept and he called last month and now he needs another time out.
He was in the AF for 21 yrs as a nurse had two tours to Iraq. He retired last July cuz he couldn't think of being deployed again. Yes, I know this is his way of coping which isn't healthy, but I would think if he says I'm his bff, he would allow me to be this time, but not and that hurts. So, I haven't seen nor talked to him since 11/11/11, which was veterans day.
A close friend of his comitted suicide and he was thinking about him all day, then issues with son and work was just too stressful for him. I called him the next day to check on him and he didn't answer ,texted him no responnse, two hrs later he said " I'm ok". I asked why he wasn't answering my phone calls he said taking time out and then text again stop pressuring me. I didn't think I was doing that until after. I was worried cuz he said he was depressed bout his buddy.
So, doing it this time I'm praying asking God to be strong and give him time. Its hard. I give him his space, don't call until he comes around.
What do u guys think?
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I'm new to this forum and read different post once in while when need be. I first started reading when I find out my man told me he had PTSD 7 mos into the relationship, which wasn't the case.
In December 2009, I noticed a change n his behavior which was out of the blue. I thought was ok. He would tell me he didn't want to be with me, or he was done, he wasn't in love with me, which completely caught me by surprise cuz he told that I had tht I had the traits he was looking for. I didn't want to talk, withdraw from me and didn't want to see me. I was co-fused and didn't understand what was going on. The distance and not wanting to talk to me and saying hurtful things had be hurt and confused. All the while still there loving him.
Fast foward 2 yrs 7 mos , when he stressed he always take his breaks or time out and its so hard although I know its been 2 yrs its never easy to deal with.
I have educated myself on this illness and being a therapist its still isn't easy. He knows I luv him, he said tht he trust me and don't want to keep hurting me. I know he loves me, he's caring, funny, my bff, into me, respects my family, still taking time out bothers me at times because we didn't talk the month of Sept and he called last month and now he needs another time out.
He was in the AF for 21 yrs as a nurse had two tours to Iraq. He retired last July cuz he couldn't think of being deployed again. Yes, I know this is his way of coping which isn't healthy, but I would think if he says I'm his bff, he would allow me to be this time, but not and that hurts. So, I haven't seen nor talked to him since 11/11/11, which was veterans day.
A close friend of his comitted suicide and he was thinking about him all day, then issues with son and work was just too stressful for him. I called him the next day to check on him and he didn't answer ,texted him no responnse, two hrs later he said " I'm ok". I asked why he wasn't answering my phone calls he said taking time out and then text again stop pressuring me. I didn't think I was doing that until after. I was worried cuz he said he was depressed bout his buddy.
So, doing it this time I'm praying asking God to be strong and give him time. Its hard. I give him his space, don't call until he comes around.
What do u guys think?
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