Relationship Sufferer Feels Unsafe With Me

[fac]

I have a question. I am friends with a ptsd sufferer or an anxiexty sufferer don't know which or both. I ran into her at a grocery store and she was on the phone the whole time. I thought strange but ok. Then I said a few words and left. I had more to say so when I saw her going into another store I stopped. I must have scared her because she nearly got into an accident and told me that night that I scared her. Confusing and now she is still scared or should I say she doesn't feel safe around me. Does that fear ever go away

 

[Fadeaway]

I am pretty confused
1.You don't know if she has PTSD or anxiety. Maybe neither, maybe both?
2. You think her being on the phone was strange
3 You said something to her while she was on the phone? or not? did you wait around until she was off the phone?
4. You saw she was going into the store and stopped what? Stopped following her? Stopped into the store she went into, as in you followed her into a different store?
5.Did you startle her because she didn't expect to see you or did your presence scare her?
6. Did she say she doesn't feel safe around you?

 

[fac]

I know she has panic attacks and she seems to have the symptoms of ptsd and anxiety but I haven't been told of a diagnosis. I said something to her but she wouldn't get off of the phone which for her seems strange. Her truck was parked at another store and I went in to talk everything seemed ok until she left and almost hire another car. She then sent me an email saying that I freaked her out showing up like that. Seen her recently at a basketball game and she still seems freaked out.

 

[fac]

Two different stores on two different days. I'm not sure she just said my repeatedly popping up freaks her out

 

[Fadeaway]

You can't try and diagnose someone. Just because she seems too, doesn't mean she does.

You don't know who was on the other end of the line. She may not have been able to get off the phone.

If someone had followed me into a store because they saw my vehicle parked outside, and the person had no other reason to go in there, would freak me the hell out too. It is kind of stalking. Especially, when you could have called or e-mailed her later.

The best thing to do is leave her alone if you see her in public. You can wave, but move on.

 

[fac]

I did not diagnose anyone that came from her she hadn't been diagnosed yet and I went in there to say something to her didn't follow her in the store.
I came here for help on two different occasions and both times felt attacked. I did nothing that I hadn't done a hundred times before her aunt died. I hate the way people coming here for help get attacked. Going in a store is stalking. Yall throw that word around very carelessly. How do you expect to help if you're always in attack mode.

 

[fac]

And you still haven't answered the questionof how long does it last. Honestly all you did was attack me. I saw a car in a parking lot and went in. The intention was to speak to her no anger no nothing. Had no idea she would react that way, of course I would give her space and leave her alone, but calling me a stalker doesn't answer the question at hand, so honestly you could have kept all of that to yourself. Be careful who you call a stalker

 

[Sighs]

@Fadeaway - Don't you love it when a person comes onto a public forum, asks a question, you take the time to try to give them a thoughtful answer and then they are angry with YOU...

@fac - How long does it last? Ummm... let me just check my crystal ball... You know the woman. How on earth do you expect strangers on the internet to tell you how long she will feel a certain way?

 

[fac]

Thank you for finally attempting to address the question. I actually asked. And being called a stalker was not suppose to make me angry. No worries

 

[fac]

I didn't get angry at your attempt to answer the question and if that's a question that depends on her and how she feels that's fine but you did everything and said everything but answered the question. The question was how long does it normally last, if that question can not be answered ok
But to insult me like that was wrong. But it doesn't matter now I am just a guy watching a dear friend systematically fall apart and am helpless to do anything about it.

 

[The Albatross]

Fac, you don't really go into your relationship with the sufferer (unless it's elsewhere)... but yeah I have a very specific trigger that hasn't actually normalized though others have. There is not really enough information here in this post to assist you and I'm not exactly sure what your relationship to her actually is.

 

[Fadeaway]

I just went through your post history. The Founder of this site asked if you found your behavior a bit stalkerish, so I since this has come up twice now I can see why you got so defensive. I apologize for making you feel attacked.

My intention is not to attack. Your posts are not very clear and it is very difficult for anyone to access the situation.
Is this the same incident that happened in December?
This is not a romantic relationship correct?
She has stated she has childhood trauma, flashbacks and panic attacks.

I didn't answer the question because I didn't have an answer, but with the other information you provided, it seemed like you were looking for more than that.

If this is a second incident, I highly advise you not to address her in public.
If this is the same incident that the one you mentioned before I would ask her to tell you what makes her feel unsafe and then avoid doing those things.