Relationship Sufferers Opening Up In The Honeymood Phase

[dulcia]

Separated from mine this weekend. Have had zero contact which is unlike me. Sent him some information he needed for something unrelated so some communication started. He was being sweet and apologetic until he started to realize he wasn't getting the reaction he wanted and wasn't changing his mind. Control is definitely a thing.

 

[Nomoneywoman]

Would you feel guilty if you had cancer? Or had a stroke and your brain was fuzzy??? Not r...

Reading this I cried because it's sad & I know your right if I am understanding what your saying. My T keeps trying to get me to ask myself the same thing. I'm not sure if I understand my feelings right or I am not ready to admit to those feelings I do have in this area. It makes me feel weak & I can't seem to get past that.
Because I tend not to interpret things right through text I find your last paragraph to be confusing to me somewhat.

 

[Deleted member 38137]

Reading this I cried because it's sad & I know your right if I am understanding what your saying....

Awww...don't cry. I think you need to realize that your therapist is totally right. You have no control over this besides trying to fix yourself to the best of your ability. Now if you weren't going to counseling, that's one thing. But going to counseling is a great thing. It's a STRONG THING!!! I wish my damn Vet would do it. LOL.

What I meant about guilt is that if you're not doing counseling and so on, then you should feel guilty for not addressing your problems and subjecting others to them. But it sounds like you are doing your best. Try not to be too hard on yourself though. It takes great courage to admit your faults in front of strangers. You will get better if you keep it up.

 

[Deleted member 38137]

Separated from mine this weekend. Have had zero contact which is unlike me. Sent him some informatio...

Yeah there is a very strong controlling factor in it!!! My Vet tried going into Dick Mode (Not Super Dick Mode...so maybe he's doing better...lol) and I stole that control right from him. He tried telling me to go run my errands by myself after he asked me to take him to Lowe's. And AFTER he made me wait for 2 hours for him to finish what he was doing to go. I told him that if you don't want to go, then I'm gonna do my thing and go home. And that's what I did. I took off and did my errands and left him there blinking at me. LOL.

I think that is a deciding factor though. I used to try and make things work and calm him down. Now I'm like OK, if you wanna be an ass, then I'm outta here and I leave. He can go fly a kite. Let's see how much he takes me for granted with my new ability to tell him to buzz off. LOL

 

[Nomoneywoman]

Awww...don't cry. I think you need to realize that your therapist is totally right. You h...

Thank you for your support.