I am a sufferer of PTSD and a survivor of CSA from my granduncle. My symptomes have developed mostly during last year, when I stopped denying the abuse that used to happen while I was pre-school and during early primary school... I am seeing a psychologist regularly for more than a year now.
Now, I am in a relationship (or something like that, although we are not officialy dating) with a good friend of mine (maybe it´s too soon to call it a relationship, so, let´s say we are very close friends). He knows about the abuse, even the details - I have told him, during flashbacks... Perhaps not the wisest thing to do. But I am not controling myself in these moments - I just keep talking in a childlish voice about what had happened. Now, I feel kind of responsible for him feeling sad for me. Not only for me, but for anyone, who went through this crap.
He, himself, had some minor problems with eating after hearing about me being oraly raped... I feel like that he himself needs support, somebody to talk to. I am speaking in his stead. Unfortunately, he doesn´t speak english, not even a bit, so I can not advise him to use this site on his own, and in my language, there are no such large forums available...
I just wanted to ask, you, who are partners or close friends of child abuse survivors, how do you cope? He often feels guilty for provoking a flashback (it can be just a few words, one hug...). I keep telling him it is not his fault, but he still feels horribly when this happens. I often push him away, say things that hurt him, sometimes even on purpose... I need him, but I keep telling him to leave me, that I do not deserve him being good to me...
I wish I could be a better source of support for him myself, but unfortunately, it´s not always possible, especially when I am too scared or suicidal, which is most difficult for him. He says he is worried about me all the time, when he is not with me.
He doesn´t have anyone to talk to, or more likely he actually doesn´t want to - he feels he would have betrayed me in some way, if he spoke about my past with somebody else (although I said to him that I wouldn´t mind if he did so).
I would be greatful for your insight and advices... Thank you!
Now, I am in a relationship (or something like that, although we are not officialy dating) with a good friend of mine (maybe it´s too soon to call it a relationship, so, let´s say we are very close friends). He knows about the abuse, even the details - I have told him, during flashbacks... Perhaps not the wisest thing to do. But I am not controling myself in these moments - I just keep talking in a childlish voice about what had happened. Now, I feel kind of responsible for him feeling sad for me. Not only for me, but for anyone, who went through this crap.
He, himself, had some minor problems with eating after hearing about me being oraly raped... I feel like that he himself needs support, somebody to talk to. I am speaking in his stead. Unfortunately, he doesn´t speak english, not even a bit, so I can not advise him to use this site on his own, and in my language, there are no such large forums available...
I just wanted to ask, you, who are partners or close friends of child abuse survivors, how do you cope? He often feels guilty for provoking a flashback (it can be just a few words, one hug...). I keep telling him it is not his fault, but he still feels horribly when this happens. I often push him away, say things that hurt him, sometimes even on purpose... I need him, but I keep telling him to leave me, that I do not deserve him being good to me...
I wish I could be a better source of support for him myself, but unfortunately, it´s not always possible, especially when I am too scared or suicidal, which is most difficult for him. He says he is worried about me all the time, when he is not with me.
He doesn´t have anyone to talk to, or more likely he actually doesn´t want to - he feels he would have betrayed me in some way, if he spoke about my past with somebody else (although I said to him that I wouldn´t mind if he did so).
I would be greatful for your insight and advices... Thank you!
