Supporters & sufferers - telling your spouse about ptsd

[somerandomguy]

I think that's part of what makes me nervous about telling him, he wouldn't know what to do with the information..

What if you told him specifically how you'd like him to best support you?

 

[piratelady]

@somerandomguy I think I would need to talk about that with therapist first because I'm not really sure how I would want to be supported. I mean I've never had anyone be supportive in my life, I'm not sure what that even looks like. I feel a little bit like it's the blind leading the blind in this case.

 

[somerandomguy]

OK, just throwing out ideas, and I apologize if this stuff isn't helpful.

What if ... he went with you once to a therapy appointment? I know that when I've had really, really hard stuff to tell my wife, I have done much better in front of a therapist or marriage counselor. And another, more impartial person joining the discussion has been very helpful as well.

 

[piratelady]

I've actually had the same thought and might consider it again once I get the therapist situation figured out. The thought of bringing him there makes me incredibly nervous, but at least I would be working with a safety net, so to speak, with the therapist present.

 

[MyWillow]

@piratelady so many decisions only you can make but something worth thinking about....the best time to discuss this is when you’re NOT symptomatic. When you can express your concerns and be prepared for his responses. I sure as hell cant do that when I’m feeling on edge 24/7. Take care xxx