Sympathy For An Abuser And Corresponding Conflictions

[Tinyflame]

It's very difficult to separate intolerable and/ or dehumanizing actions from the 'human-ness' of the person, let alone the need or hope for change, validation, care, acceptance or love. And that's not touching on the way it erodes your self-esteem and soul.

I think feeling empathy, love +/or understanding (which I cannot help) is best (ideally) balanced by not needing to be physically present with them, and building my own life. And of course good coping skills, support, and emotional detachment, if possible.

Best wishes to you. :hug:

 

[moshpitmunkey]

Hi OP,

I completely understand you. My parents want to build back a connection with me as well d...

You are absolutely right. I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much.

 

[moshpitmunkey]

It's very difficult to separate intolerable and/ or dehumanizing actions from the 'human-ness' of the pe...

This is really great advice. Thank you.