Taking A Person With Ptsd Seriously

[Tinyflame]

I guess the only part I don't really understand p-no, is like the analogy, re: flying. I do totally understand that part, but I guess I think well, I would say that it's my issue, not anyone else's. But if others don't volunteer the same, then I default to the cause ('problem') is 'me'. I know one is not supposed to think for others, but I think that's rather normal, at least to wonder. And I guess also, for me the doubt is sufficient to assign the blame to myself, seems the most likely explanation if none other is given. And perhaps it is.

I guess also I expect others to tell the truth, hurtful or not. Probably because of age (being older), as well, an expectation of honesty and giving others credit they have the right to feel whatever they feel, also.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oye, it won't edit. I was just going to add I guess to me that's part of being taken seriously, in a way. But it is also with the understanding it may not be what I want to hear, especially if one is aware they are a burden, or things are unforgiveable, or whatever is the case. But, I can't blame anyone for being honest either.

Then again, who ever knows, people all have lots to contend with. I guess I just worry that I'm missing the appropriate cue to leave.

 

[p-no]

Dear Junebug! <3 (that's a heart)

I would so love to reply now but can't (at work and don't have the time to grab a dictionary to really understand as much as I can. So, just a short note to you with lots of love in it! <3

p-no (I think it was you who called me so first, and I really like this (so much better than "prime"))

 

[Springer80]

I like p-no too, sort of sounds like peanut which is appropriate for peppermint patty, although it does conjour pinot too (as in grigio, mmm lovely).

 

[Tinyflame]

:hug: Hee, :tup:.

Thank you, I appreciate the <3, to you as well. Don't work too hard! Have to head off myself, trying to get conscious and 'moveable'.

I think, "prime-know". ;) :)

 

[p-no]

II do totally understand that part, but I guess I think well, I would say that it's my issue, not anyone else's.

Okay, so, I understand this, I think, and yes, PTSD symptoms are "my issues", but at the same time when you're in a relationship, those symptoms are in the same boat with you and your partner. Literally imagine a canoe with you in it, him in it and your symptoms and his (be they "normal" issues, also PTSD symptoms, etc.). When someone loves you, your PTSD symptoms will - to a certain degree - become also their issues; they will have an effect on them and they (the one who loves you) will want (not necessarily have to) deal with them. Because he loves you and he wants you to feel safe and happy.

But if others don't volunteer the same, then I default to the cause ('problem') is 'me'. I know one is not supposed to think for others, but I think that's rather normal, at least to wonder. And I guess also, for me the doubt is sufficient to assign the blame to myself, seems the most likely explanation if none other is given. And perhaps it is.

I don't understand the first sentence here, and I guess in consequence, don't think I'm getting the rest right. Would you mind explaining that a bit differently?

I guess also I expect others to tell the truth, hurtful or not. Probably because of age (being older), as well, an expectation of honesty and giving others credit they have the right to feel whatever they feel, also.

Same here. I thinkt hat has to do with inner growth rather than age.

Big free hugs. :hug:

 

[p-no]

I like p-no too, sort of sounds like peanut which is appropriate for peppermint patty, although it does conjour pinot too.

Never thought of peanut, but that does sound right re Patty. And Pinot, nice, I like that.

 

[p-no]

(((((Big Hugs)))) to you! :inlove:

Very sweet of you, thanks. Sometimes I feel a bit ashamed of what joy an online hug and a little emoticon can cause me to feel. :happy:

I came back because of what I had read- you said (paraphrasing) that "personality and behaviour are not the same and that you reproached yourself terribly for it". And how else (or why else) would we think differently about it, if that perspective or thought (or that was our understanding and belief) started as a child. And that others may view the behaviour as = personality.

Well all I can say is 'wow' and thank you.

I think it was Springer who worded that perfectly.

That helped me so much today, because I think (even though I may not deserve it), I was able to not beat myself up about it, as much. I mean, at some level there is the same shame etc, but also admittance (to myself) that it IS also the ptsd.

I am grateful about what you're saying here. :hug: It is also the PTSD. And although the PTSD is part of you, you are not all PTSD. :inlove: