Hi everyone.
My girlfriend has PTSD due to her previous partner of 10 years, he was physically, mentally and sexually abusive and very controlling.
I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year, she has a four year old who has the tendency to scream and hit when she doesn't get what she wants. They escaped a year or two ago and are now living with her Mum and stepdad.
When we started going out she was getting councelling, but recently told me she thinks she quit too soon.
In January I moved out of my flat and left my job and moved back to my hometown to save money to move in together and also so I was closer to them. Because of the current quarantine I've also moved in temporarily in order to help.
My girlfriend is really struggling to control her child and when she sets rules she gets upset when others don't honour them (mainly her Mum and stepdad).
Part of the problem is that due to the nature of her previous relationship when her daughter is aggressive my girlfriend tends to get upset because she's scared her daughter is taking after her Dad.
On top of this if she says no to something (usually food) her daughter goes to others and asks and sometimes she gets it I think usually because her parents want an easy solution with less screaming.
She sees this as not being listened to which understandably upsets her. This causes arguments between her and her Mum despite trying to tell her that getting angry at people who have the best of intentions won't help fix the situation.
I'm doing my best to keep the peace, but now she's upset with me for trying to explain this to her.
All of this would probably be easier if we had a normal life in our own property, but given the current circumstances that isn't an option.
Is there an online counselling service available? Any other help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
I love them both and I'm not going anywhere unless told otherwise.
I apologise for this thrown together post, but I currently don't know where else to turn for help.
Thanks to whoever reads this.
Sincerely
J
My girlfriend has PTSD due to her previous partner of 10 years, he was physically, mentally and sexually abusive and very controlling.
I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year, she has a four year old who has the tendency to scream and hit when she doesn't get what she wants. They escaped a year or two ago and are now living with her Mum and stepdad.
When we started going out she was getting councelling, but recently told me she thinks she quit too soon.
In January I moved out of my flat and left my job and moved back to my hometown to save money to move in together and also so I was closer to them. Because of the current quarantine I've also moved in temporarily in order to help.
My girlfriend is really struggling to control her child and when she sets rules she gets upset when others don't honour them (mainly her Mum and stepdad).
Part of the problem is that due to the nature of her previous relationship when her daughter is aggressive my girlfriend tends to get upset because she's scared her daughter is taking after her Dad.
On top of this if she says no to something (usually food) her daughter goes to others and asks and sometimes she gets it I think usually because her parents want an easy solution with less screaming.
She sees this as not being listened to which understandably upsets her. This causes arguments between her and her Mum despite trying to tell her that getting angry at people who have the best of intentions won't help fix the situation.
I'm doing my best to keep the peace, but now she's upset with me for trying to explain this to her.
All of this would probably be easier if we had a normal life in our own property, but given the current circumstances that isn't an option.
Is there an online counselling service available? Any other help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
I love them both and I'm not going anywhere unless told otherwise.
I apologise for this thrown together post, but I currently don't know where else to turn for help.
Thanks to whoever reads this.
Sincerely
J