Terrible Mistake

[Casey_03]

I already cancelled the trip.

 

[Sandstone]

I'm sorry to hear that.

What will you do now?

 

[Casey_03]

Stay in Ukraine and continue with what I was doing, working from home and taking care of the baby.

 

[Powder]

I can relate to wanting to be far away from toxic people who think they own you, body and soul.

The father has legal rights? If so, can you leave without incurring a legal problem or being wanted for kidnapping? If you can make an escape, though, and not get into any trouble legally, maybe that would free you from the father's mental illness or whatever is his problem.

 

[Sighs]

I can understand where you are coming from Casey. My parents are very happy to offer help and sometimes I take it and then remember that there is ALWAYS a catch with them. Their love is so far from unconditional its not funny. Often by the time I figure out what the quid pro quo is its too late for me to back out and change streams. You may well have dodged a bullet. I hope that things improve for you in the Ukraine. Hugs if you accept them.

 

[Casey_03]

I ended up making the move anyway after my sister tearfully begged me to. Really tried to convince myself it was the right choice and I was just having last minute jitters. But no. I am now trapped in a home infested with cockroaches. There are needles sticking out of the carpet. The place is absolutely filthy and certainly no place for a baby. My grandmother is a danger to my baby; she keeps trying to grab him from me and pick him up, has even swooped in to my room while I was in the bathroom and tried to pick him up. She can't even lift a milk carton, so there is no way she could lift him up without dropping him on the floor. I am honestly afraid to leave the baby alone at all; it doesn't even feel right to be in this filthy, digusting house with a certifiably insane person. I am going to have to go to a shelter. I just needlessly made several steps back in life and I don't think I can get back to where I was. Why the hell did I leave Ukraine? I had stability, privacy and freedom there. I didn't need to fear for my child when going to the bathroom.

 

[The Albatross]

In the longer term your child has status in the states that were not otherwise available, but yes if your home situation is not healthy please do get out of there.