General Terrified And Helpless

[Concerned]

Today was/is a bad day for my husband, he drank, more than he should have which only exacerbated his depression and anxiety. Also I found out last week that although he had been prescribed a new mediation two weeks ago, he is not taking it as prescribed, which is every day and is only taking it periodically.

He got very tearful and angry and anxious and wanted to be alone and spent over an hour on the front porch listening to music and aggressively rocking in the rocking chair. He came back inside and kissed our son goodnight and after I got our son to sleep went out to see if he wanted something to eat but he was gone. He finally texted me and told me he went somewhere to be alone, about an hour from our house and said he needed room and to not send anyone or he will leave there.

I am honoring his wishes and supporting him the only way I know how which is to tell him I love him and that I am here for him, but I am SO SCARED! He is struggling and in so much pain and I am terrified that one day he is going to decide that he can't take the pain anymore and do something harmful to himself.

Please pray for him and if anyone has been through something similar I welcome your insight and experience in helping both he and I to come out of this on the other side!

 

[discarded]

This is such a stressful situation for you to be in and unfortunately very little you can do. My husband used to take off but rarely stayed away past a few hours. He would pick an argument with either me or our teenage son and push us til he would storm out and go where ever to be on his own for a while. I never knew where he went, I would ask and he would say just around, or he didn't remember. I did stress about him, especially when he had been drinking. He did recover from that initial phase of PTSD but has succumbed again recently.

This time he has withdrawn from me completely. This time I left and took our daughter (the others are grown up now) with me. He is in our home on his own but at least I know he is safe. If he doesn't answer when I call I do panic. This time I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel. It is up to him now and I think it is a long road ahead.

I really don't have advice for you, just a bit of moral support as I do understand your pain and worry. Hang in there. ((((hugs))))

 

[Trembling]

Dear Concerned, I have been in this situation (though no kids), but the drinking which increases everything bad and makes the whole episodes worse. He left several times, told me to be left alone, then he called totally pissed and full of anger most of the times.

Anger against himself, the world and everything I was not able to see.

He did not take the medication as prescribed, and as you, when I found out, he got angry with me, as he said he did not need it.

I still think there is a reason why we do all of this, but sorry, I cannot tell you anything positive, as my situation did not get better.

I hope you can go through, but be happy, this is important for yourself and your son.