The Concept Of An Inner Child... Not Really Buying It

[Don't trip]

Hashi,

I understand, however I disagree in that the safety need are the same in adulthood as in childhood. How do I know this? Because I've experienced both, so I have a foundation for comparison.

I don't share that to be argumentative either, but I do know I was in a different stage of development at the time, even though my reactions to all the traumas I've suffered were a compilation from around the age of eight.

There was a freedom to speak and to access resources at 20 that I knew I could not access as a child under an authority figures care.

And therein lies the differences. I chose not too, when at eight, I had no choices. As a child, I was forced to deny to survive, at 20 I had the freedom to choose whether or not to remain in denial. I chose denial. Alas, I am only speaking for myself Hashi, and not for your own views and perspectives, of which i understand and respect.

 

[Hashi]

I've also experienced both, we've had different experiences of it. I said it wasn't automatically safe at 20. I respect that you have experienced things differently from me. Which reinforces my view that different people might need different approaches. :)