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I was in a 4th grade class in a small Ohio town around 1980-81, and suddenly the classroom walls shook. I think there was a loud boom, but I'm not sure. I remember people being startled and maybe something about an earthquake. I only remember one mention of this incident later, my dad said there was a car bomb that was maybe attached to a turn signal. I don't remember a single additional mention of this incident, it was like we were in place which had virtually no crime, and apparently someone used way more explosive than was necessary to blow up a car, and the explosion happened near where all school children of the town were in class, and it was not important to talk about it.
I have tried to find info a little since the internet came to be, but can't find anything.
I think not talking about things is sort of how things work/worked in the past in small towns. I feel like it's a mix of good and bad, as I think endlessly talking about things can make things worse. My dad was firefighter, both professional and volunteer, and I know he saw some things and I know he found his good friend dead after going to check on him, but he just mentions things quickly and goes on. I sort of feel like if he talked and talked about this car accident he was first on scene for as volunteer firefighter or that other thing he'd get worked up and maybe the incident would make a bigger imprint than it already had. Like things just happen and it's better to focus on better things.
I think maybe also it's a little like Asian ideas of working together and no one making a specticle of themselves. Someone standing up going on and on about some incident maybe is seen as an attention getter interested in themselves.
On the other hand, I got harassed in school, a couple times violently, and teachers looking right at incident pretended it didn't happen and said nothing. I think they did not want to make waves. But I think this not wanting to make waves is not just a small town thing. When I got sexually assaulted by gays on a liberal college campus, surrounded by liberals and university counselor was gay advocate, it was like virtually the same phenomena, where it is event is not to be mentioned because it is too uncomfortable...except in this case there were also people loudly standing up to hate, intolerance and homophobia and secret homosexuality of someone who would dare accuse gays of wrongdoing.
It's actually better if people don't know what to do that they just keep quiet and pretend something never happened, than be loud jackasses about things they know nothing about.
I have tried to find info a little since the internet came to be, but can't find anything.
I think not talking about things is sort of how things work/worked in the past in small towns. I feel like it's a mix of good and bad, as I think endlessly talking about things can make things worse. My dad was firefighter, both professional and volunteer, and I know he saw some things and I know he found his good friend dead after going to check on him, but he just mentions things quickly and goes on. I sort of feel like if he talked and talked about this car accident he was first on scene for as volunteer firefighter or that other thing he'd get worked up and maybe the incident would make a bigger imprint than it already had. Like things just happen and it's better to focus on better things.
I think maybe also it's a little like Asian ideas of working together and no one making a specticle of themselves. Someone standing up going on and on about some incident maybe is seen as an attention getter interested in themselves.
On the other hand, I got harassed in school, a couple times violently, and teachers looking right at incident pretended it didn't happen and said nothing. I think they did not want to make waves. But I think this not wanting to make waves is not just a small town thing. When I got sexually assaulted by gays on a liberal college campus, surrounded by liberals and university counselor was gay advocate, it was like virtually the same phenomena, where it is event is not to be mentioned because it is too uncomfortable...except in this case there were also people loudly standing up to hate, intolerance and homophobia and secret homosexuality of someone who would dare accuse gays of wrongdoing.
It's actually better if people don't know what to do that they just keep quiet and pretend something never happened, than be loud jackasses about things they know nothing about.
