The Same Dream Surfaces With Stress.

[OneNightOwl333]

My husband died 2 years ago this January. Recently, I was on a trip with my son and he didn't feel good. He was fighting off a sinus infection and was very irritable bordering on mean. We ordinarily get along and are close but when he get's into this dominant mind set it really puts me on overload. He is 24 years old now and is an engineer working in a high stress job. So two mornings in a row I had the same bad dream that hasn't popped up for a few months but did again on the trip.
The feeling is so real. Just like when the events happened with his dad and the pain was so intense. I have only wanted to remember the good times with his dad over our 24 year marriage and not talk about when he was sick and turned mean going into cirrhosis but it comes out in my dreams which tells me I am repressing the pain and not dealing with it. I think my son's mood triggered the dreams.
I have tried to date a little recently and if a guy treats me bad I go into a bad way and my anger is unleashed onto that person. I have met a few jerks but this anger is coming from a time I was hurt very bad. I will be discussing this with my therapist next week. Can anyone relate?

 

[aut555]

I can relate. But in the same universe, the chances of finding another abusive men can be quite high where l live. So l chose not to date where l live. Not sure of your age but mistreatment of older females is a reality that we must face. So don't beat yourself up about this. Most older people in the big cities live alone according to the US census, so it doesn't bother me at all to be alone.

 

[laurat]

I have also been through a similar situation lately. My husband when over stressed get overboard and i was only trying to help

 

[laurat]

I pray you find some one who would really care about you and I believe there are many.