Therapist Says I Have Mad Coping Skills, Rest Of World Disagrees?

[EveHarrington]

The tech world sounds wretched!

Have you considered a career change?

 

[sun seeker]

Like, other friends I've had who weren't disabled in any way ... They all said I was a sad sack of a human being. That I was both pathetic and stupid and should be grateful of what crumbs Amazon or they threw my way. That if I weren't so technically gifted that they wouldn't have bothered being friends with me or caring about my fate.

Isn't at least part of the definition of "friend" that the person has to at least most of the time be nice to you? :confused:

Out of curiosity, I actually looked up the definition and my goodness, there are a lot of different ones! But I didn't find any in my search so far that could include the behaviour you are describing.

 

[Ava Jarvis]

Heh, yeah. They are so not my friends. Haha. I need to stop referring to them as such. Old habits ...

And yeah, I am trying to accomplish a career change to art. It is so weird.... Like, coding is creative, but not in the same ways that art is. And even so, the visual arts are different from the writing arts, which I'm more used to.

One day I want to be able to keep up with networking and hustling to get clients. I am just not able to do that right now, which is leading to some unfortunate dead zones in the income business.

 

[hodge]

Ava, your description of your work experiences sound very much like my nightmares about work. My job was never that bad, but I still have nightmares about it because I can't do it anymore. Haven't been able to since 2007. I've been on SS disability since 2009.

And, yeah, you need a new caseworker or therapist. We cannot control our nightmares. Period. End of story. Have you tried Prazosin or clonidine? Both are actually blood pressure meds but by some miracle they also both work to help nightmares disappear when you wake up so that you are not haunted by them. They are great meds.

 

[EveHarrington]

Perhaps kindly point out to this case worker that nightmares are a symptom of PTSD. If we could control them and simply make them stop then they wouldn't be a part of a "disorder"-----you could then define "disorder" to her. I don't meant to sound (all that) condescending but some people really do need things spelled out for them.

 

[Bloomy]

I reckognice this all to well. The fitness world is no better then the tech world.
I belive I have mad coping skills too even if In my case it rarely get acknowledged by others. But I can kind of see it myself knowing what I did to become a trainer among other things Ive done.

To be treated so poorly do in work life didnt make trauma issues better. On the contrary I belive that was what paved the road to the misery Im in today.
Last year I got a short term job that for the first time in my life showed me what a good working environment is like. I was in shock. Disbelive. I mean - the boss said she really liked me. She treated me like a human being. The collegues wanted to have nice chats with me. Not back stabbing or anything. Saying they appreciate the work I did there and such. Got paid when I were supposed to and everything in order.

Im pretty sure that If the fitness job had been like this to I wouldnt be here today. The misery. But with my mad coping skills I guess I coped to much.

Ava - I think you are awesome. I wish you could have a work life where people take care of you and encourage you as a employee. The way you have replied to me in many threads and post shows your mad skills and I sincerely appreciate and needed your input.

Empty head today - just wanted to make this comment.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

I hate it when therapists tell me how great I am at coping. it is like saying WOW you survived HELL! Curious! It is like a backhanded compliment with a bit of voyeurism.
No one should even have to have such great coping skills that people are like "What a marvel"

 

[Bloomy]

@Pakadlangitok its a little the same for me when people say Im so strong. Well if I werent Id be dead. Sp yeah a bit back handed compliment since life didnt give me any other options any way.

 

[EmmaOwl]

when people say Im so strong. Well if I werent Id be dead.

"I could never live through what you did" is even better. Sigh.