General Timing ?

[wessex]

Hi im new to the forum and can I just say thank you to all your post it has been a great help to try and understand ptsd.

Right were do I start ? In April I met an old friend that I had not seen for 22 years after my best friend and her boyfriend past away in a motorbike accidant which was very hard for us both at the time, but we moved on well so I thought.

Anyway we both got together and talked about moving in, marriage the whole works. I love her very much and have had a hard time myself. When I was 15 a boy that I was playing with on the day before Xmas Eve past away.

I had to go looking for him with the police and he was found very close to my home on Xmas Eve in 1985, when I mean close ouside my bedroom window on the main road. I can still see the blue light flashing now, but more around Xmas time, maybe I need help too ?

Sorry for that rant I'm trying to help my girlfriend, what I wanted to say is in July this year she had a car accident, and now has been diagnosed with PTSD and has just had a second session with a counseler .

We both went on a short break in late August and that was the last time I have seen her. I just want to know that she is ok and I'm there for her but not a thing. I read on here that you can isolate form people so I'm trying to give her space.

I think the worst thing about it all is the not knowing how, where or if she still loves me. So I wanted to text her but don't no what to say, and dont want to put any pressure on her. I miss her so much and would like hear you ideas.

Thank you, sorry for the spelling.

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[IvyMillie]

Do you know that she is trying to isolate herself? I wasn't sure if you had tried to contact her and she hadn't responded. It sounded like you two were very close, and still are.

I don't know if you know her address, but one nice thing might be to buy her a really nice card. That way she can keep it and be reminded that you are thinking about her. It would be sweeter than a text. Then maybe follow up a while after with a text about "did you get my card?" and that you would like to know she is okay.

I only say that because it sounded like you were both in a very serious relationship. I hope that you can hear from her soon.

 

[wessex]

Thanks for your help millie I have spoken to her mum and she's not talking to her friends or anyone else for 3 weeks .
I like you idea about the card so I'm off today to go and get one but don't want to write anything 2 sloppy in it any ideas of things to say ? I miss her so much